Age Difference (2 Viewers)

Do you have a preference of how much older/younger someone is that you go out with?

  • Yes; they have to be the SAME age!

    Votes: 48 2.8%
  • No; I don;t mind!

    Votes: 655 38.3%
  • Yes; no more than a year younger/older than me!

    Votes: 594 34.8%
  • I like older/younger men/women!

    Votes: 411 24.1%

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HalcyonSky

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i know a 19 yr old who is happy with a 32 year old guy

even though their relationship is pretty much based entirely on sex

i dont really see a massive problem with it, biologically its natural for girls to seek older guys and a couple thousand years ago it was completely normal
 

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'vapid cunt' nice language there..
what is with you two?
if he and i both have soo many issues, then wouldnt you be happier if we wernt out there "getting people our own age"
we happen to have a lot in common. we generally have similar opinions on quite a few things.
for example, we both love the same music, cats, food, movies, tv shows (except the footy lol)
and we can manage to talk for 5 hours a night, without running out of things to talk about.
we have the same friends, two of which actually tried to get us together
 

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i know a 19 yr old who is happy with a 32 year old guy

even though their relationship is pretty much based entirely on sex

i dont really see a massive problem with it, biologically its natural for girls to seek older guys and a couple thousand years ago it was completely normal
thank you.
but in my case, our relationship isnt rly based on sex at all.
 

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You are an idiot. When you're fifteen looking back on when you were right you'd realise in comparison you were an idiot. When you're twenty looking back on fifteen you'd think the same. When you're forty looking back on twenty you'd think the same. We grow, or at least should grow, to an extent that the person we look back on is not at all on our current level. So why would we want someone else who was on that level? Someone who is like that idiot?

Unless the person you are isn't growing or the person you're dating grew so much faster than you could ever have hope to then it's going to be an unbalanced relationship with someone much younger. It's why I very much doubt I could date someone of highschool age; so many things about their lives seem trivial and I feel like a parent when they offload.

As for being in a relationship with someone older, it's fine but if it goes too far then I become aware of the imbalances. I remember there was this guy who seemed interested in me, he was thirtyish, and he had so much more money than me so if we ever went to do something he was interested in then he'd have to foot the bill for me. Whenever we spoke, if I shared an experience and he responded with one of his one, it was far enough away that it felt like the times when my mother would tell me stories of the family when I was a child. His expectations of a relationship were also very different, can you say U-haul?

It was really disturbing for me and I didn't want to be around him but similarly, if he wasn't that much beyond me then I'd question why. I don't want to be racing ahead of someone who's that much older than me ... it feels bad enough with me handling things better than my older sister. I'd just pity him and be frustrated.

Summary: It's really weird to date someone a decade older, or even more, as an age gap when you're at my age. It's equally creepy to date someone who's comparatively sucking their thumbs at highschool too.
 

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'vapid cunt' nice language there..
what is with you two?
if he and i both have soo many issues, then wouldnt you be happier if we wernt out there "getting people our own age"
we happen to have a lot in common. we generally have similar opinions on quite a few things.
for example, we both love the same music, cats, food, movies, tv shows (except the footy lol)
and we can manage to talk for 5 hours a night, without running out of things to talk about.
we have the same friends, two of which actually tried to get us together
That, is creepy. I would question the social development of a thirty year old who was well suited to a relationship with a seventeen year old and socialises with people of that age. On the other hand, if the friends are his age then it seems rather gross that they're propelling you in his direction.
 

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That, is creepy. I would question the social development of a thirty year old who was well suited to a relationship with a seventeen year old and socialises with people of that age. On the other hand, if the friends are his age then it seems rather gross that they're propelling you in his direction.
the friend group that we are both in range from my age to his age. majority are around 23-25, with a few older, a few younger.
 

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and i'm not saying that its a perfect relationship, in an idillic world, we would have both found someone that we are this compatible with that is closer to our own age. but the truth is that in the time we were friends, age never came up. i didnt even know how old he was until his 30th birthday, which was a month and a half before we got together.
at this point the only thing that would be keeping us apart would be the age difference, and a number is really not something that should be the defining aspect that keeps two people from seeing if they really are right for each other.
 

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That, is creepy. I would question the social development of a thirty year old who was well suited to a relationship with a seventeen year old and socialises with people of that age. On the other hand, if the friends are his age then it seems rather gross that they're propelling you in his direction.
and it wasnt them just randomly trying to get us together, it was one of my closest friends and one of his, they are also really close and could both see that we liked each other.
 

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yep! 16 and 27! you see the height difference and even the look of them is just wrong.. she's in her school uniform and the guy's in a full working suit n everything drinking coffee whilst the girl is drinking a chocolate milkshake... =_=
she's pretty mature for her age but... i dont think i can see her with a 16 or 17 yr old guy... but as the 27yr old guy.. WELL... he's got issues...
haha. in my case, i'm the one with the coffee, hes the one with the chocolate milkshake. he cant stand coffee lol
 

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Totally agree with Minai on that. But it also depends upon how mature the two people are. Like my sister is 21 and she moved away from home at 16 (to go to school in the city) and now she's with a 30yr old. But if you didn't know their ages then you wouldn't know the difference. They're like two peas in a pod...they just mesh. Some ppl don't mesh...

Go for the mesh. :D
thats what were like. we mesh.
 

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hey i said sugar daddy before! :p

Seriously, if you love him, and he loves you, theres really not anything wrong with it. It might seem weird now, but if the love is really there then i dont see whats wrong with it, rather it should be wrong if you were to end it due to social implications against you're love for each other.
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Obviously a guy isn't going to date a girl much older than him. But I'd say a 2-3 year difference between girl and guy (girl being the younger one) is ok for people aged 20+.
 

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I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21 - there is a difference of 2.5 years.
We've been together since I was 16 and he was 18 (turning 19). Great age difference in our opinion :)
 

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i know a 19 yr old who is happy with a 32 year old guy

even though their relationship is pretty much based entirely on sex

i dont really see a massive problem with it, biologically its natural for girls to seek older guys and a couple thousand years ago it was completely normal
haha katie

and their relationship is a bit deeper than just sex, jeeze
 

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well i am 23 (24 soon eek) anyway, i would not go more than 28 and would not go under 22. but the 22 yr would have to be pretty mature.
 

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How much does age matter?

Right now I am sort of with this guy, but he is 27 and I am 18(well in 2days)
How older than yourselves would you date a person?
why is a 17 year old with a 27 year old?? he must be a perv who likes school girls, 9 years is an ok age gap but not at your age
 

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