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Just fk him and get over it!!
It'll probably be ur first and last time anyway cause u r a N E R D!!! for even posting up ur private issues on this website!!
 

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i couldnt find the high fidelity quote anywhere, but...


"what better way to exercise relationship deamons than to screw the person who screwed you over by sleeping with them, right? wrong, in the end you would be sleeping with this sad person culture you know...it would be like sleeping with talia shire if you were not rocky"
 
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feathers said:
hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?
Dunno about the casual sex, thats your decision.

But surely there's someone better (i.e. not your ex) to lose your virginity to...
 

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chakim said:
Just a on a note... how the fuck does your life consist of 10 posts a day? are you proud?

just 4 letters that wont get you casual sex... N E R D !

and by casual i mean, any at all

NERD...
What does this thread have to do with me?
 

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chakim said:
Just a on a note... how the fuck does your life consist of 10 posts a day? are you proud?

just 4 letters that wont get you casual sex... N E R D !

and by casual i mean, any at all

NERD...
Why are you noobs picking on our post counts? Are you jealous because our e-penises are longer than yours? :rolleyes:

Yes, yes we are proud. Proud that among the 2000 posts we have, there are ones that contribute to the educational sections of the forums - rather than two useless messages bagging out people based on numbers. :)
 
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haha, what a weirdo.

His social life consists of typing irrelevant comebacks directed towards people he's never met on an online forum. Good one, son.
 

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so it's alright when I bag jumb out since I've met him?

cool!
 

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feathers: do you REALLY want to lose your virginity? or are you just hearing what he's saying and thinking "yeah, that's kinda right....i think...."
you've really gotta think about it - your virginity needs to be valued...dont let any old guy take it away from you (its the same as your childhood innocence, you need to let go of it when YOU're ready). personally, i say wait till you find someone you really like, not some random - as they say, your ex is an ex for a reason!
 

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don't waste your time...

guy seems like an idiot who doesn't deserve you..
he is obviously gonna fuck you then leave you and u know it so why bother unless you are as low as he is..
 

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feathers said:
hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?
Some of the responses are a bit paranoid. So long as you keep it clean and safe I don't see the problem. Life is not a rehearsal. Casual sex isn't about respect. It's about mutual satisfaction, or preferably mutual intimate companionship in some cases.

That said, personally I would not have wanted my first time to be from casual sex. But if that doesn't bother you it's no big deal. I don't see why it would be that bad when you both know and have (romantic) experience with each other. Just make sure both parties (ie. you) don't have any strong feelings residing there, because that may cause trouble. But like I said mutual companionship, extending to the physical -- nothing wrong with that.

Also, since you two have not been in contact for quite some time there is no risk of losing a friend. It can be somewhat risky to have casual sex with a friend in case you start viewing them more as a sex object and thus lose your ordinary interest in their friendship. I don't think it this necessarily likely but it is possible.

Based on what you've said, if you were not a virgin I would say go for it. But if the issue is really about your "first time" rather than general reluctance for casual sex, then you may want to wait. But I think emphasis on virginity is pretty psychological. It's more a social construct than anything really that important if you think about it. The question is whether you let it bother you or not.
 

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chakim said:
Just a on a note... how the fuck does your life consist of 10 posts a day? are you proud?

just 4 letters that wont get you casual sex... N E R D !

and by casual i mean, any at all

NERD...
Just 4 letters that won't get you casual sex... NOOB

Chakim ( 2 posts )

Mate your making fun of Jumb for posting on a forum? Isn't that a tad hypocritical considering your also on a forum posting?

Jumb is funny, so fuck you and have a nice day.
 

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The way I read it, she's happy to be a peice of meat for an ex. And they all lived happily ever after.
 

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What about him being a piece of meat for her? You give girls these days too much credit :p

But seriously, if they both want the same thing...
 

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Haha. I'm not complaining. Onward pram-pushers of tomorrow- your mediocre blip of existence awaites!
 

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well it depends if you value your virginity feathers...

and bscienceboi: casual sex doesn't automatically guarantee satisfaction =P
 
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feathers said:
hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?


well heres how i see it.......if you are asking complete strangers on the internet about whether you should have sex for the first time with your ex...........you just answered your own question..........make your own choices...youn don't need some strangers to help you decide................although how hot is he?????jok
 

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I don't think you should do it if you still like him unless you want to lead an empty, unhappy and detatched existence. You'll feel crap after you've had yor first time with some asshole who for whatever reason doesn't want to be attatched to you emotionally. I mean thats horrible. Unless you only want to use him for sex. I guess I don't really relate to the whole fuck buddy concept because I have to become emotionally attached to a person in order to feel satisfied. But if you just want to fuck him and he just wants to fuck you... why not? Do it.
 

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I love being the main topic of a thread.


Again.
 

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