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I have been told a guy in my group of friends likes me. Now I am not exactly good friends with him, more of an acquaintance but I really am not at all attracted to him. Now - I don't want to say anything first cos it could be that some of my friends are just trying to fuck with my head (unlikely though) and I don't want to embarrass him. My other friend reckons we should invent a boyfriend for me and the end....Has anyone else been in this situation before?
 

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Tell him;

"You're a good friend"
"You're like a brother to me"
"I'm glad you'd never ask me out, we're some much better this way."
"I love how I can hug you and it's completely non-sexual"

et al
 

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Do NOT make up a boyfriend. Especially if he is your mate. Just be honest, say you love his as a friend and don't want to mess that up.
 

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I actually don't is the thing. I really don't know him well enough to even talk to him on his own without feeling awkward. But I don't want to create an 'awkward' feeling in the group if I reject him and we have to avoid eachother. I don't think I would be friends with him after school...
 

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mr_brightside said:
Tell him;

"You're a good friend"
"You're like a brother to me"
"I'm glad you'd never ask me out, we're some much better this way."
"I love how I can hug you and it's completely non-sexual"

et al
thats the right idea, drop hints like that which say 'if you ask me out i will say no so dont bother' ... you could also maybe talk about another guy you like or something while hes in earshot (not to hurt him, just to make him realise pursuing you wouldnt work out for him).
 

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Gwenny said:
I actually don't is the thing. I really don't know him well enough to even talk to him on his own without feeling awkward. But I don't want to create an 'awkward' feeling in the group if I reject him and we have to avoid eachother. I don't think I would be friends with him after school...
Well in that case, say you don't know him that well, and want to get to know him before you rush into anything.
 

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Catch herpes. Or exaggerate your bowel movements so he overhears.
 

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Gwenny said:
I have been told a guy in my group of friends likes me. Now I am not exactly good friends with him, more of an acquaintance but I really am not at all attracted to him. Now - I don't want to say anything first cos it could be that some of my friends are just trying to fuck with my head (unlikely though) and I don't want to embarrass him. My other friend reckons we should invent a boyfriend for me and the end....Has anyone else been in this situation before?
IMO confront him one-on-one and lay down the rules. Say to him "someone told me you like me, I don't care if that's true, but either way I want you to know I'm not interested". High school boys, especially those in a mixed "group" are spineless. If you show some courage and tell him how he is, he will back away quick smart.
 

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"mate"
"bro"
"brother"
"dude"
" <other person and how you reckon he's way hot> "
 

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You can never not hurt him, so make it instant and draw the line, thereby prolonging the pain/hurt.
 

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Re: 回复: Re: How do you Deter people without hurting their feelings...

But in your case minthu, that wouldn't be lying.

Although guys like honest chicks, so they may not care.

;)
 

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Re: 回复: Re: How do you Deter people without hurting their feelings...

to be honest i'd rather die shagging a cross whore than get your syphilis.
 

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cfair said:
to be honest i'd rather die shagging a cross whore than get your syphilis.
:wave:
 

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Re: 回复: Re: How do you Deter people without hurting their feelings...

hey cutie pie, other way round for you :shy:
 

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