ur_inner_child
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Okay be serious, as I feel a little bit out of the loop with the dating shit compared to everyone else.
Last time I was single I was 16. Seriously. Kissing a new person recently is like the weirdest sensation. So I just wanna ask...
1. What exactly is so frightening about being in a relationship? What are they? I SERIOUSLY don't know. Since I've only been in one, I associate the negative stuff with the actual person, not the "being in a relationship" factor. If you say "being tied down", well I don't get it. If you think she's funny and good looking, is it that you just don't like her enough to be faithful to only her?
This couple I know hang out together heaps, have fun, sleep with each other, and have been doing so for the last 2 years. They get shitty if the other is unfaithful, but he'll insist "no, she's not my girlfriend". What the fuck?
2. If a girl became recently single after a five year relationship, and you've liked her for a year and you made it known to her, to your mates and everyone around... would you be intimidated by where her mindset is? If she comes out with you, you go out with her, sleep with each other, etc, what would you be thinking? Would you feel like a rebound? How will you ever see yourselves pan out?
When should I ask him what he wants from me without potentially scaring the fuck out of him? ie Relationship wise? Or should I just enjoy myself and let him make the moves when he feels ready? Or do you think HE is the one waiting for me to feel ready?
3.
I'm not like stressing out about it. I can happily just go back to what I have with this new guy without giving a shit about the future, but its all out of curiousity here...
Last time I was single I was 16. Seriously. Kissing a new person recently is like the weirdest sensation. So I just wanna ask...
1. What exactly is so frightening about being in a relationship? What are they? I SERIOUSLY don't know. Since I've only been in one, I associate the negative stuff with the actual person, not the "being in a relationship" factor. If you say "being tied down", well I don't get it. If you think she's funny and good looking, is it that you just don't like her enough to be faithful to only her?
This couple I know hang out together heaps, have fun, sleep with each other, and have been doing so for the last 2 years. They get shitty if the other is unfaithful, but he'll insist "no, she's not my girlfriend". What the fuck?
2. If a girl became recently single after a five year relationship, and you've liked her for a year and you made it known to her, to your mates and everyone around... would you be intimidated by where her mindset is? If she comes out with you, you go out with her, sleep with each other, etc, what would you be thinking? Would you feel like a rebound? How will you ever see yourselves pan out?
When should I ask him what he wants from me without potentially scaring the fuck out of him? ie Relationship wise? Or should I just enjoy myself and let him make the moves when he feels ready? Or do you think HE is the one waiting for me to feel ready?
3.
ur_inner_child said:oh he wants a relationship, I'm still like "maybe".
cuzlykyeah
Why is it wrong of me to "jump into another relationship" within a year or two after my five year relationship? Why would I have a fucked up mindset about what I want? If anything, don't I have MORE of an idea of what I want if I just left this other guy?youBROKEmyLIFE said:Note: do not. It seems like it'll be awesome and be comfortable and awesome and different.
Do NOT. Do NOT.
Because your head isn't straight and it'll have serious impacts on the relationship. Chill out, get out of it and just relax for like a year or two. Get your head straight and then dive into one if it fancies you.
I'm not like stressing out about it. I can happily just go back to what I have with this new guy without giving a shit about the future, but its all out of curiousity here...
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