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[hApPy1]

Ok, my dad really doesnt get this HSC, nor will he give me a chance to explain it! He understands its the final year of school but im having a hard time explaining the amount of work and study that goes into trials and 3 major works- he doesnt get it! im seriously in tears- he thinks im selfish! and dont do anything around the house-i understand that this is a stressful year and that it takes from what u would normally do- but serioiusly- i've left no room for study these "holidays", its all about my majors so i can give up at least half an hour a day to the cleaning of the house....i have sisters who clean but he reckons its not fair on them that i have to study and they clean...im really angry and upset-he doesn't understand and im starting to think he doesnt care when he shrugs me off.

me: where do u think marks come from!?
dad: people who get good marks know their stuff

he doesnt know what he's on about! its killing me!

mum will be back from overseas soon....hopefully b4 i go mad-as if this time of yr isnt stressful enough-nope- i get a dad who calls me selfish for studying-nice start to the exams.

what should i do ppl?

thanks

 

[Jago]

If it makes you feel any better my parents think the UAI is a mark...

"You should get 100% son, it's not that hard"

 

[tennille]

If it's only 1 hour of cleaning per day, that's not too bad. That can be like a 1 hour break from studying. It looks like your dad thinks that going well in the HSC is based on luck. are your siblings younger than you? You could say to your dad that they'll be going through the same thing during the years to come, so technically it isn't unfair. You really need to try and convince your dad that the HSC is important and your future depends on it (well, technically it doesn't necessarily, but kind of exaggerate so he gets the message). I really sympathise.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

"You should get 100% son, it's not that hard"

ROFL that is hilarious.

Threadstarter: It's harder for your dad to understand because you are the first child to go through the HSC. I would imagine you have tried everything to make him understand, so anything I suggest now would probably be futile. However, if all he asks for is half an hour to an hour of cleaning a day (I can't imagine how clean your house must be with that much cleaning ) then just do it to make him happy. It saves you time because arguing with your dad probably takes more than an hour.

Is your dad home all the time? If not, ask your sisters to do your part of the housework for you, and tell them that when it's their turn to do the HSC, you'll return the favour.

Good luck.

 

[hApPy1]

If it's only 1 hour of cleaning per day, that's not too bad. That can be like a 1 hour break from studying. It looks like your dad thinks that going well in the HSC is based on luck. are your siblings younger than you? You could say to your dad that they'll be going through the same thing during the years to come, so technically it isn't unfair. You really need to try and convince your dad that the HSC is important and your future depends on it (well, technically it doesn't necessarily, but kind of exaggerate so he gets the message). I really sympathise.

yeah, no i help anyway otherwise my head will get bitten off...and that is heaps of time considering recent change in one of my majors- i havnt studied-i dont have the chance- these major works are taking time and trials arent the priority right now- yes my siblings are younger and yes i've reminded him that they'll go through the same thing. Make a difference? No. Im selfish no matter what-exaggerating sounds like whinging... unfortunately for me.

 

[tennille]

yeah, no i help anyway otherwise my head will get bitten off...and that is heaps of time considering recent change in one of my majors- i havnt studied-i dont have the chance- these major works are taking time and trials arent the priority right now- yes my siblings are younger and yes i've reminded him that they'll go through the same thing. Make a difference? No. Im selfish no matter what-exaggerating sounds like whinging... unfortunately for me.

I know how it feels. When you go through the HSC, it's like you can't even waste a minute of not studying. The thing is that you're not being selfish. I kind of felt selfish, but one year of not doing that much work is not as important as not getting into the course you want simply because you had to help around the house. What excatly is he going to do if you study more, seriously?

Go to the library where your away from everyone.

 

[elissa]

I totally feel for you. i have a family that all left at end of year 10, i have a 20 yearold brother, and a 18 year old bro, that dont have jobs, and live at home scabbing off mum and dad, they dont have jobs either. My sister is in year 10 and watches tv all day.

Each day is full of arguments and fights, i try to study and do my work in my room, but find it hard to concentrate because of the amount of noise that goes on, everyday i cry because no-one cares. I have no-one to talk to, because no-one i know has gone through what i am going through.

If you can, go to a library to study - if one is close enough ( i know the closest library in my area is 30 minutes away on a bus).

When your mum comes back, ask to sit down and discuss the issues with them, alone (without ur sisters there).

Or, if that doesnt work, tell them to get stuffed.

 

[hApPy1]

ROFL that is hilarious.

Threadstarter: It's harder for your dad to understand because you are the first child to go through the HSC. I would imagine you have tried everything to make him understand, so anything I suggest now would probably be futile. However, if all he asks for is half an hour to an hour of cleaning a day (I can't imagine how clean your house must be with that much cleaning ) then just do it to make him happy. It saves you time because arguing with your dad probably takes more than an hour.

Is your dad home all the time? If not, ask your sisters to do your part of the housework for you, and tell them that when it's their turn to do the HSC, you'll return the favour.

Good luck.

when i say half hour i mean assumed half hour- that doesnt include putting clothes on the line, making breakfast for him, dinner for all, and buying milk from the store. At this stage of schooling, i wont be too enthusiastic about a trip to the store for milk when i have a chunk of work sitting at home......my mind is elsewhere as weird as that my sound to him. but yeah- the half hour is assumed

 

[Dreamerish*~]

yeah, no i help anyway otherwise my head will get bitten off...and that is heaps of time considering recent change in one of my majors- i havnt studied-i dont have the chance- these major works are taking time and trials arent the priority right now- yes my siblings are younger and yes i've reminded him that they'll go through the same thing. Make a difference? No. Im selfish no matter what-exaggerating sounds like whinging... unfortunately for me.

Just be calm and balance your studying with the housework. Is it just housework or are there other things as well? I don't know how much your dad is asking for, but you won't be affected much if you do the dishes after dinner or something.

When your mum comes back, ask her to talk to him about it. Hopefully she would understand. Are your sisters in high school? If they are, they should have some idea of the HSC's importance. If everyone under your roof supports you and your studies, your dad might just budge.

Oh, right. The corner shop. Well, maybe you can take all the housework at home while your sisters do the running.

 

[hApPy1]

Just be calm and balance your studying with the housework. Is it just housework or are there other things as well? I don't know how much your dad is asking for, but you won't be affected much if you do the dishes after dinner or something.

When your mum comes back, ask her to talk to him about it. Hopefully she would understand. Are your sisters in high school? If they are, they should have some idea of the HSC's importance. If everyone under your roof supports you and your studies, your dad might just budge.

Oh, right. The corner shop. Well, maybe you can take all the housework at home while your sisters do the running.

like i said, the half hour of work is kind of assumed- there are many things to be done...think teh role of a mum (its a pretty big role i realised when she left) im realising this now as i do the HSC...unfortunately i dont think i can balance trial study, and 3 majors along with housework - dishes after dinner (i do that on my own- no one needs to tell me) but do the washing and vacum the house, i think ill leave that to my bludging yr 9 sister.

 

[_Bushra_]

If it makes you feel any better my parents think the UAI is a mark...

"You should get 100% son, it's not that hard"

LOL thats sooo funny!

my parents are sooo the same!

 

[Jago]

They call you son as well?

 

[Casmira]

you think thats bad? if i get under 80 UAI im kicked out of the house :9

 

[Jago]

sounds sweet, you can live at uni and get pissed every night with uni buds

 

[suger_plum]

If it makes you feel any better my parents think the UAI is a mark...

"You should get 100% son, it's not that hard"

MY PARENTS THINK THE SAME AS URS
man are they gunna be in for a shock when i get the results back
stupid bloody parents

 

[Shell]

My parents don't care. I've been in situations where dad ahs asked me to do a chore when its interrupting my strudy, but i dont get asked to do that much often, so i do the little things. They dont ever pressure me to do well, or study or whatever, they just are happy if im happy. Which is pretty easy to achieve.

 

[sly fly]

Ok, my dad really doesnt get this HSC, nor will he give me a chance to explain it! He understands its the final year of school but im having a hard time explaining the amount of work and study that goes into trials and 3 major works- he doesnt get it! im seriously in tears- he thinks im selfish! and dont do anything around the house-i understand that this is a stressful year and that it takes from what u would normally do- but serioiusly- i've left no room for study these "holidays", its all about my majors so i can give up at least half an hour a day to the cleaning of the house....i have sisters who clean but he reckons its not fair on them that i have to study and they clean...im really angry and upset-he doesn't understand and im starting to think he doesnt care when he shrugs me off.

me: where do u think marks come from!?
dad: people who get good marks know their stuff

he doesnt know what he's on about! its killing me!

mum will be back from overseas soon....hopefully b4 i go mad-as if this time of yr isnt stressful enough-nope- i get a dad who calls me selfish for studying-nice start to the exams.

what should i do ppl?

thanks

Dont worry my mum is exactly the same. But my bro understands coz he did HSC the year before last and studied like crazy. So yeah he's doing alot of the housework (and my dad too)and he convinces my mum that it's ok for me not to be doing much work coz this year is important to me. I made a deal with my mum that after HSC, i'll do heaps of housework - more than before.

So my advice, try and get ur siblings to convince him that it's ok by them.

(Btw, I pretty much only read the first post in this thread coz i couldn't be bothered with the rest so I do apologise if this has already been said or if it's not possible)

Good luck with it!