Remember the 'ates' like this, this way also helps you with the formulas:
Naughty Children Smoke Pot- (hehe or Nice Children Smell Purfume, as my chem teacher would have us believe!)
NO31- CO32- SO42- PO43-
Write your NO CO SO PO in a line. Start at the top left with NO, and write 1- above it. Then work across using the pattern of one 1, two 2's, three 3's and finally the 4's. When you get to the end of the row, PO3- move back to NO and write a number 3 at the bottom. continue till you get to PO4.
The valency is the number at the top, if you didn't know already. The 'ites' for these 4 have the same valency as the 'ates', they just have one less oxygen.
Can't really help you with remembering the others