lengy said:
I'd say that even though YOU felt something for him but it wasn't returned is a good reason to break up. I've felt things for people but I don't ask until I feel that there is a possibility that they may feel the same towards me. It avoids leading people on, wasting their time as well as hurt and rejection. If you are sure that the other is not returning the love, and you have tried to mend the situation then the relationship is all but over, you just haven't officially declared it.
Up til the last 6 months we were both in what we thought was love, were going to move in, planned to get engaged if things stayed the same, but then when he went off to uni everything changed, he couldn't say whether he did love me, and we were waiting for his mid-semester holidays when he had 'time for me' to work everything out. I just couldn't wait anymore.
I think I may have hurt him more with the break-up than he did -- I had four months to move on, pretty much, the relationship was more or less dead for those months, so I had a new bloke the day I officially ended it. Kinda harsh, I realise, but it seemed fair enough.
sharnz06 said:
i've never written in one of these things before but this seems like the only thing on my mind atm.... my bf jus broke up wiv me saturday nite- devastated. basically i didn't apreciate him enuf wen i was wiv him and now that its ova i feel like the biggest idiot in the world and he won't take me back- ouch! i've been so down on myself.... does anyone kno how i can get ova it? it's killing me.... i wanna talk to him but i can't- my pride's stopping me now (it didn't last nite) but yeah- i love him and he refuses to love me back so i need a cure!!! its been a bad break up- i never cared about anyone enuf before him and he said he didn't either but i hurt him too much- my fault- need to try and move on....
Darl, ring up your mates and get them to come over/talk just about anything else. Sometimes you just can't dwell on these things, and it's best to distract yourself for a couple of days, or til whenever you're feeling more able and then try and talk to him, normally. Just make sure he wants to talk to you, act like you're just friends, then tell him you understand why he broke up with you, and if he's willing to give you another shot.
Then again, he's unwilling to love you? I don't beleive someone can refuse to love you: they either do or they don't. Perhaps it's best that if he doesn't feel that way towards you to accept it? I know I'm no help, but there's my two cents.
. eat sum chocolate
