casual sex or not? (1 Viewer)

[feathers]

hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?

 

[Iron]

An ex-boyfriend rang you asking for sex with no strings and you're considering it. Good luck honey.

 

[Dreamerish*~]

You are a bloody idiot for even considering it.

If you want a fuck buddy, go for it. But to lose your virginity to an ex who just wants to get into your pants with no strings attached, even a girl with feathers for brains would say no.

 

[hipPo3]

No .. like dreamerish said .. dont even consider it

 

[Lhyviathan]

hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?

First and foremost, make sure he doesn't overcharge you.

Some other things to consider:

1) Condoms or no condoms? (Any discounts for 'going natural'?)
2) Spit or swallow? (Any discounts if you swallow?)
3) Any 'mates' rates' discounts?
4) How much support/compensation does he pay for babies/STD's?

Finally, make sure you're copulating in a fairly hygenic environment. Don't hesistate to invoke the Gigolo Association's Charter if he tries anything beyond the line of duty.

 

[lil lelu]

hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) but my ex boyfriend (whom incidentally I broke up with a year and a half ago) started talking to me again, and he's been saying all this shit about how he doesn't regret anything that happened with me and he misses me, but what the conversation eventually boiled down to is that he wants to be f*** buddies. He knows that I haven't had sex yet, but he keeps saying "you gotta have fun.. you'll enjoy it... you're so hot... you must be sick of being by yourself" yadda yadda. Actually, to tell you the truth, I AM kinda sick of waiting. But what would you do in this situation (for guys i probably know the answer, I'm more interested in what the girls have to say). Would you go for guarenteed sex, any time, 'no strings attached', or would you keep waiting?

trust me wait till u meet someone who respects you. by the sounds of it he has not been gettin anything off anyothe girls, so he'll try you coz u (correct me if im wrong) still like him. i done the same thing and i really regert it. i really wish i waited till my current boyfriend. we have been together for 2 years, and we have complete trust in each other. it also feels alot more deeper as we conect on an emotional level, not just physical.

so sus out you ex's motives, u dont want to be used. dont give in too sweet talk as well, i done that and regret it 1000000%

 

[bumbo_hippo]

lemme ask something..
watz up wif guyz and casual?!
this guyz in my bio class....all he ever ask me...if casual?? cmon?!?!?...come ova my house....
i mean da like...WTFF~~~

 

[wanton-wonton]

Say yes, because he's probably the only guy you can get..

 

[bumbo_hippo]

Say yes, because he's probably the only guy you can get..

geez danxs...
i will keep dat in mind~

 

[jumb]

go nuts, you only live once.

 

[sabdow]

Jumb
Total Posts: 4,275 (9.93 posts per day)

practice what you preach, jumb

 

[Lennie]

I'm tempted to agree with jumb... But a few of your comments scare me.

First of all, it sounds like hes trying to sweet-talk you. Sweet talkers arent the greatest people to be hooking up with.

Secondly, you say that he only just started talking to you again... C'mon.

He only wants to use you.

If you must have casual sex with someone, make sure that they are actually a friend, and they RESPECT you. Thats amazingly important if you want a healthy-type relationship.

I know the prospect of a casual no-strings type relationship is appealing, but believe me, you will regret it... After all, it will be your first time.

 

[nwatts]

Jumb
Total Posts: 4,275 (9.93 posts per day)

practice what you preach, jumb

Swish.

Oh, and feathers... the mere fact you're considering it is frightening. But hey, do what you want, stuff up your own life.

 

[jennylim]

no, no, NO, NO!!!

feathers have some respect for yourself!!! you may want the experience but don't lose your virginity on some guy who wants to use you!!!! might be cheesy and people may not agree, but i reckon on your first time it should be someone you love and something that's special...not some random no-strings-attached fuck with a loser.

in short: keep waiting.

 

[bscienceboi]

hi everybody... I've been wondering about this for a while, and i found a good forum to ask this question in.

See, here's the thing... I'm actually a virgin (not for religious reasonsI was waiting for the right time... now I'm just waiting for a guy that isn't a total psycho) ?

Doesn't that answer your question?

So your willing to break what you believe, your morals, just for some "satisfaction"?

 

[repz]

hahaha keep to masturbation and wait for the right guy
but yeh in all seriousness, just wait till you meet a guy who respects you and not treat you like a sex object cmon you goto have alil more respect for yourself, i say get rid of this loser and find yourself a man!.

 

[beccaxx]

feathers. u say ur waitin 4 the right time
how is this possibly it?

hes ur ex 4 a reason. otherwise hed still b ur bf now.

leave exs as exs

 

[mmm_sofay]

i say go for it.
you're going to have sex any way in this lifetime, but you can choose how you lose your virginity this time round.
1) ex bf
2) random who you will never see again
3) drunken one night stand, and you wont even swap names. it will just be wild drunken sex. and then next time you see him, you will have more wild drunken sex, but still no name swapping, until one of you becomes involved with another person.
4) male escort

 

[jumb]

Jumb
Total Posts: 4,275 (9.93 posts per day)

practice what you preach, jumb

That made no sense.

Besides, my actual posts per day would be higher than that.

 

[chakim]

Nerd!

go nuts, you only live once.

Just a on a note... how the fuck does your life consist of 10 posts a day? are you proud?

just 4 letters that wont get you casual sex... N E R D !

and by casual i mean, any at all

NERD...