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how the hell do guys mind work??????????????? HELP PLEASE (1 Viewer)

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Hey everyone

Just wondering how the hell a guys mind works????????????
I have this guy, who is my friend. he has been giving me all the right hints
i.e.- touching me
- looking into my eyes
- smiling and looking at me from across the room for long periods of time
- and heaps of other obvious stuff.

Now i just find out that he has a girlfriend. The weird thing is that HE never told me about it, i found out through sum1 else.
What should i do??????

How do i show him that i am interested without actually telling him that i like him???
I AM REALLY AFRAID OF REJECTION

I really like this guy, but maybe i am getting the vibes all wrong.
Waddo u all think
Thanks every1
 

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munchybuddy said:
Hey everyone

Just wondering how the hell a guys mind works????????????
I have this guy, who is my friend. he has been giving me all the right hints
i.e.- touching me
- looking into my eyes
- smiling and looking at me from across the room for long periods of time
- and heaps of other obvious stuff.

Now i just find out that he has a girlfriend. The weird thing is that HE never told me about it, i found out through sum1 else.
What should i do??????

How do i show him that i am interested without actually telling him that i like him???
I AM REALLY AFRAID OF REJECTION

I really like this guy, but maybe i am getting the vibes all wrong.
Waddo u all think
Thanks every1
Oh dude, I know how you feel. But while he has a girlfriend there is NOTHING YOU CAN DO.

Trust me. I KNOW.
 

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His girlfriend would be pretty jealous if she reads this. If he is really doing this to you, chances are he is interested in you.

Though I don’t think you can go too far while he has a girlfriend.

My advice is saving your relationship with him for happier days; like when they brake up for example.
 

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If he's doing this to you while he has a girlfriend, he sounds like a bit of a player, to be frank. How 'friendly' are you, in truth? Best friend kind of friends or 'friends' who actually don't want to have much to do with being true 'friends' other than hooking up?
 

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Seems like he wants to cover his bases. He's keeping you interested while he does a bit of test driving with the other girl. If it don't work out then he'll take the alternative option, i.e. you.

You need to assess your status with him. Do you want the friend thing or to go further. A friendship is quite often more valuable than a short term passion.
 

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Now i just find out that he has a girlfriend. The weird thing is that HE never told me about it, i found out through sum1 else.
What should i do??????
He enjoys the security of a relationship, but perhaps he is getting a little bored and wants a bit of fun and excitement. That's where you come in..

munchybuddy said:
Just wondering how the hell a guys mind works????????????
I have this guy, who is my friend. he has been giving me all the right hints
i.e.- touching me
- looking into my eyes
- smiling and looking at me from across the room for long periods of time
- and heaps of other obvious stuff.
So basically, he's flirting with you because he might be discontent with his relationship.

How do i show him that i am interested without actually telling him that i like him???
I AM REALLY AFRAID OF REJECTION

I really like this guy, but maybe i am getting the vibes all wrong.
Waddo u all think
Thanks every1
Um...don't do anything. He has a girlfriend. Don't let this guy get pleasure from you and security from his girlfriend.
 

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brogan77 said:
Fucking slut. :\
I was totally going to post that! Then I came to the realisation that this thread isn't worthy of my grace.
 

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ellen.louise said:
Don't go there. It's not fucking worth it.
Quoted for truth. Oh, fucking truth.

WE KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE. DON'T GO THERE.
 

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gawd, it's so funny how we don't understand each other and still try to screw eachother...

-P_D
 

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I dunno what the deal is.. I dont find girls confusing, and i can't see how they could find my mind confusing :S
 

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We prefer not to think. We like to fuck things up and only when we realise all of a sudden we are in shit do we do something (god I feel like such a femanist)
 

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Gilbert1 said:
We prefer not to think. We like to fuck things up and only when we realise all of a sudden we are in shit do we do something (god I feel like such a feMANist)
No, i think the (real) feminists would stab you through the heart with their killer heels just for that.
 

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Gilbert1 said:
We prefer not to think. We like to fuck things up and only when we realise all of a sudden we are in shit do we do something (god I feel like such a femanist)
Fucking right! Wth is the deal with thinking.. so pointless half the time..
 

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brogan77 said:
But then by gracing it to make that comment you render that assertion void!
Yes, I do understand the irony in it.
 
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PrettyVacant said:
He enjoys the security of a relationship, but perhaps he is getting a little bored and wants a bit of fun and excitement. That's where you come in..



So basically, he's flirting with you because he might be discontent with his relationship.



Um...don't do anything. He has a girlfriend. Don't let this guy get pleasure from you and security from his girlfriend.
She speaks the truth.

Alternatively, if you really like him, confront him about it. It may be that he is unhappy in his relationship, or has fallen for you in a way that changes his previous relationship.

Talk to him. Be an adult.
 

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Kwayera said:
If he's doing this to you while he has a girlfriend, he sounds like a bit of a player, to be frank. How 'friendly' are you, in truth? Best friend kind of friends or 'friends' who actually don't want to have much to do with being true 'friends' other than hooking up?

hmm i dunoo.. i mean - she's describing what she sees. in reality it could be harmless and insignificant, but because she like's him she see's it differently. she could be seeing it the way she want's to see it. most likely unintentionally. that's the problem when it come's to these things. you become so involved in your feelings for someone that you believe what you want to believe, and you see what you want to see.

to me, i think he just seems like a guy trying to be nice. provide us with some more information, with a little more detail - only then could we get an inclination of how he feels towards you. all in all, he could think you're cute and must just enjoy flirting with you. which is not a bad thing - iyou have a platform to build on :D
 

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