mingdfdfd
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My friends Story:
I am 24, I have a GF, we have been together for 2 yrs, we both study in Canada University. She planed to go back to HK long time ago. So 2 months ago, she went back.
I have a good job in Canada in a big US firm, the pay is better and the future is also brighter than what can be offer in HK. So I told my gf that I will go back to HK a bit later. I am not sure if she can get use to HK or not. I will stay here just in case she wants to come back. Or better yet, move to bigger city like Toronto or Vancouver if she decide to come back to Canada (we live in small city).
Anyway, for the first week or two, she hated HK because it is too hot and wet and claims she will come back. But after about 3 weeks or so... she started to like it. Found a crappy job and worked for 2 weeks... until recently, she got an excellent job in an international bank and she loved HK. My new plan: I will finish 2 courses with exam and get my Certification and come back to HK to look for new job in Feb. On my birthday, NOV 27, she wrote me a lovely email saying how much she love me and will wait for me. She will marry me and build a family with me together and live happily ever after. Everything seems fine... until this Holiday season...
She goes out and meets new people, which is necessary in HK I believe. And I know is risky, but she is lonely and everybody need friends, and I trust her. Apparently some older/mature guy is chasing her. And her commitment with me got shaken. Actually, everything is turned 180 Degree. Exactly a month after NOV 27, nothing in the email is true any more, she break up with me...
Her reason from what she told me:
The Last 2 months in HK is the time she most needed a bf. But I am not there. All my reason about back up plan is useless, she believe if I love her, I should quite everything and gone back with her 2 months ago. Now that she got use to HK, she does not need a BF any more. She don want to have commitment any more. She claims she will regret for this decision because she strongly believe I will be a Good Husband in the future. But she do not need a husband now, she can not be with me now. She also wants me to stay in Canada because my job and my future are brighter. In short, she don want me to go back... and regret later on. (I have a feeling she might be scarifying her love to me so I can have a better future... and there is other guys chasing her in HK as-well)
On HK news year’s eve, 9 am Canada time. I sit there in front of my computer listen to 903 telling me how people is partying in HK, and I called her... of cause she is in one of the bar and too busy to talk to me. And she did not even call me back.
I had made my crazy decision, quit my job, stop my courses, and fly back to HK with in this week. Think of a stupid excuse to tell my manager and hopefully get a good reference letter. I have a free place to stay in HK, but I don't have any friends in HK at all. I will come right away. She already told me even if I go back... she wont accept me as a bf no more, it is past, lost feeling. Things changed so fast. I know I am risking allot for something almost completely lost. I have a feeling I won’t get anything even if I go back to HK. Oh well...
All I can say is:
Sometimes, it is not necessary to find a reason to do something you believes. You plan and plan and guess what... things changes right b4 your eyes;
JUST DO IT.
Ok... sorry I typed too much; I know it is kind of non-sense and stupid;
All I am asking for is some feedback and support.
Thank you
I am 24, I have a GF, we have been together for 2 yrs, we both study in Canada University. She planed to go back to HK long time ago. So 2 months ago, she went back.
I have a good job in Canada in a big US firm, the pay is better and the future is also brighter than what can be offer in HK. So I told my gf that I will go back to HK a bit later. I am not sure if she can get use to HK or not. I will stay here just in case she wants to come back. Or better yet, move to bigger city like Toronto or Vancouver if she decide to come back to Canada (we live in small city).
Anyway, for the first week or two, she hated HK because it is too hot and wet and claims she will come back. But after about 3 weeks or so... she started to like it. Found a crappy job and worked for 2 weeks... until recently, she got an excellent job in an international bank and she loved HK. My new plan: I will finish 2 courses with exam and get my Certification and come back to HK to look for new job in Feb. On my birthday, NOV 27, she wrote me a lovely email saying how much she love me and will wait for me. She will marry me and build a family with me together and live happily ever after. Everything seems fine... until this Holiday season...
She goes out and meets new people, which is necessary in HK I believe. And I know is risky, but she is lonely and everybody need friends, and I trust her. Apparently some older/mature guy is chasing her. And her commitment with me got shaken. Actually, everything is turned 180 Degree. Exactly a month after NOV 27, nothing in the email is true any more, she break up with me...
Her reason from what she told me:
The Last 2 months in HK is the time she most needed a bf. But I am not there. All my reason about back up plan is useless, she believe if I love her, I should quite everything and gone back with her 2 months ago. Now that she got use to HK, she does not need a BF any more. She don want to have commitment any more. She claims she will regret for this decision because she strongly believe I will be a Good Husband in the future. But she do not need a husband now, she can not be with me now. She also wants me to stay in Canada because my job and my future are brighter. In short, she don want me to go back... and regret later on. (I have a feeling she might be scarifying her love to me so I can have a better future... and there is other guys chasing her in HK as-well)
On HK news year’s eve, 9 am Canada time. I sit there in front of my computer listen to 903 telling me how people is partying in HK, and I called her... of cause she is in one of the bar and too busy to talk to me. And she did not even call me back.
I had made my crazy decision, quit my job, stop my courses, and fly back to HK with in this week. Think of a stupid excuse to tell my manager and hopefully get a good reference letter. I have a free place to stay in HK, but I don't have any friends in HK at all. I will come right away. She already told me even if I go back... she wont accept me as a bf no more, it is past, lost feeling. Things changed so fast. I know I am risking allot for something almost completely lost. I have a feeling I won’t get anything even if I go back to HK. Oh well...
All I can say is:
Sometimes, it is not necessary to find a reason to do something you believes. You plan and plan and guess what... things changes right b4 your eyes;
JUST DO IT.
Ok... sorry I typed too much; I know it is kind of non-sense and stupid;
All I am asking for is some feedback and support.
Thank you
