Loneliness (1 Viewer)

[MrLonely]

I don't know whether loneliness is a common issue in teens at high school but i dunno, i've just become so lonely. how do you deal with it? i used to have heaps of friends but two of my best friends moved to different cities within a year of each other and i've just started not to get along with my other friends and i'm now in a position where i've basically got nobody to talk to, do anything with or be with for my final year of school. i thought it would be okay if i knuckle through it. but its not and its affecting my school work as well. when i go home on weekends and at night i've got nothing to do except work and i'm really sick of school. there isn't much chance to make friends either cause everyones basically completely set in their groups nowadays and i've drifted between them. its so lonely. i'm by myself all the time and i'm usually really chatty but i just can't talk anymore and i think i'm getting depressed! is this common? what should i do? i don't want to make a big deal out of it because its only for another three terms and i can start fresh at uni i spose
argh.. any ideas? is anyone else experiencing this?

 

[MrLonely]

not really.. like i get along with people in class, but not with too many people, all the others i'm pretty much indifferent with and when i'm not in class, or at night or on weekends its just me.

 

[Pace_T]

forget about hobbies that shit wont make u stop feeling lonely
its also bullshit that its too hard to make friends now coz its 'too late'
when i was in yr 12 i was freidsn with all badcunts n shit in principles office most of the day every 2nd day of the school week. but all my friends left school just like in ur situation and i was forced to get new friends then i moved onto making new friends pretty easily. these ppl turned out 2 be even funnier n all that shit. ppl are always open to make new friends no doubt. just talk to the ppl in ur classes n u'll find that htey r just like u. u'll always think they're different from u if u dont know them well.
unless ur on bad terms with a lot of cunts in ur classes then theres no real difficulty in getting more friends. unles of course u go to a faggot school full of ignorant nerds hu r up themselves...........

dont be all sad n shit with other ppl coz then theyll avoid u. just be a funny cunt hu is awlays happy so more ppl will hang around u

 

[felixcthecat]

well i did find myself a bit lost after year 10 when our whole year had to move into another 'area' of the um.. 'playground'.. so our groups sorta changed, and i didn't realli kno who to follow~ i guess it's just finding what you like to do most and find a group that does those things since u'd quite easily get accepted into a group if you have common interests or have complementary strengths..(didn't kno how to word that: like you could help each other out), orelse just hav to enjoy school until after the HSC?

and i guess it's a bit harder in yr12 since all the groups are 'set', but i'm sure a lot know your presence before this so you could opt to join into one of those groups if they interest u

 

[davin]

been there very much so. to a fair extent am still there
i think the best thing is to find groups that have common interests, and start to try to ease into them...but thats easier said than done, and honestly, i don't know where one goes with that.

there's a way to get through it, i'm sure, though... you just have to have the perserverence to find it

 

[Dimsimmer]

MrLonely: Your not the only one that is experiencing this. Im in your situation since i moved to a new school in year 11 and its a selective school and its an all boys school as well, so you can expect that there would be nerds that are up themselves. I dont have a particular group i hang out with so i just randomly just join one like when theyre playing soccer or something or i just hang out at the library. People seem to think im funny and cool and all that but im not entirely convinced about it since it doesnt really seem like it. eg i had trouble finding someone to work with in an assignment, i mean if im cool then i shouldnt have any problems right? I dont have any close friends that i normally hang out with. But i could say i have friends since i talk to them sometimes and say hi to them when i walk past but i dont feel that i can really trust them. So i guess the best thing you could do is to try not to worry about it and that you got about 6 months left of school which will go by quickly.

What i found was that i could get along ok with people that i meet outside of school and that i could find something to talk about. So if that happens to you, then im pretty sure that you dont have problems with socialising, just that your unlucky with the situation that you are in at the moment.

 

[Sofstar]

hey mrlonely
Probably is a common trouble amoung teens. There is i reckon always at least one group in your grade who will welcome you. You said that your best friends have left, maybe you should accept that things have changed and do something about it. Finding friends who make you happy, classmates who can turn into closer friends or making friends with neighbours who are still in school. Extra curricular activities......making the opportunities for yourself to meet new people.

 

[lala2]

Also, I know that you're slogging thruogh the HSC and don't wanna have to think what's ahead when you're not even finished but uni presents the same kind of problem, so it may be hard now, but it will stop you from feeling even lonelier in a bigger environment such as uni, since you will have accustomed to it by then.

 

[azzie]

i guess i feel lonely sometimes. but you get through it. you talk to mates and hang out and just learn to get over it. i think its the worst feeling in the world. it would be horrible to be totally alone.

 

[azzie]

You know what's a good song?

Mr Wendel - Arrested Development.

what about the macarena? i know its a bit old but its got the retro feel.

 

[Mrs.McDreamy]

Feeling lonely sucks. So does the macerina (no offence) better = semisonic - FNT, tegan and sarah - walking with a ghost

 

[Mongke]

i only really made my friends at high school after i met up with them in uni. just wade through the best way you can and be open to the same faces in different locations next year. its amazing how uni changes things. never burn bridges and remember that this is the HSC, your not going to have much of a social life anyway.

good luck!

 

[sja]

Play video games, watch cool movies at home, go to the park and muck around with a ball practicing Soccer tricks and stuff. That's what I usually do. You can always try going to the gym as well and pumping your guns.

Just don't turn into an emo and get into the whole myspace thing. That shit fucks you up.

 

[Shell]

Never a big fan of the Macerna.


Love something like Come on Eileen by Dexy's Midnight Runners or or

How Bizarre by OMC

yeah coz when your lonely, songs about guys sweettalking girls to get into their pants always helps.