School friends vs. Uni friends (1 Viewer)

[Lexicographer]

If people judge you for where you live just move on, there are too many great people at uni for you to waste your time on the knobs.

 

[walnuterific]

Hmmm... thought I'd offer my two cents on the topic, albeit somewhat late perhaps... but better than never, right?

Honestly, I don't think that there really is a great divide between school friends and uni friends. All that matters if that you have TRUE friends- ones that remain loyal to you and you to them. Ones that you have a good understand of and who understand you. These people are people that you can meet anywhere - in primary school, in high school, in uni or when you're out in the workforce, online.... however!!
To make a distinction between your friends by labelling them as "school friends" and "uni friends" will only stand in the development of your relationship with these people.

If you're comfortable with who you are, and you like the people you meet, who cares whether they're ones you made in high school or at uni? If you're prepared to develop a friendship with someone, why not concentrate on them, not so much where and how you met them?

I personally have met some great people through uni who I do consider to be my friends. By the same token, I've also met some people who I don't like at uni. The same applied at high school, there were people I liked and those I didn't. (for the record, I went to a public school and honestly couldn't care less whether the people I met at uni went to private or public schools).

To date, I have three people who I can say know me and understand me... even better than my own understanding of myself sometimes. One I've been friends with since Year 7. One I met online (but never in real life) and have known for about 2 or so years. And the last one I met through uni and have known for a little less than 3 months now. They all possess the same level of understanding of me. To me, they're my true friends... people who I hope will be part of my life for a long time to come, and to me that's all that matters.

 

[Panda Bear]

ok.....................

 

[pri]

If people judge you for where you live just move on, there are too many great people at uni for you to waste your time on the knobs.

ha! well sed bobert (now u are a person I havent seen for a while, though not by intention)

I can easily avoid the dickheads from high school at uni, and the dickheads at uni too. In fact its sooo funny to spend six years with someone in ur grade and then walk straight past em at uni as if u were strangers....that sounds cruel but i mean some people are never really worth the effort.

That sed, Im in a degree where I see the same people in the same lectures and studios 20 odd hours a week, which is heaps more than high school friends, so u make good friends heaps fast. The downside is that keeping contact with high school friends requires more effort, but hey its like double the friends in half the time. Plus at uni people are less cliquey (cept the odd private school snobby clique). But whatever school u came from is irrelavent. which is nice.

 

[lucky]

dun have ne friends in hs...

and

dun have ne friends in uni..

 

[bustinjustin]

Okay, yes Im still in HS but i feel compelled to two add my two cents at this ungodly hour...

All this about High School vs uni friends has been quite interesting really. I'm about to start Year 12 and I have my close friends (who erm, coincidentally form my 'clique'), but there are certain people who aren't really in my clique that I want to keep in touch with after High School...

That said, I've always looked forward to Uni and the lack of cliques and social territories. This year I've come to realise how restrictive these can be, so has anyone become close friends at uni with hs people that weren't in their cliques?

 

[absolution*]

The word 'clique' is so horribly uncool.

 

[Lexicographer]

It's only uncool when overused. And badly pluralised.

 

[llamalope]

well, i haven't met any uni friends, but all my school friends have totally ditched me....after promising the usual friendship forever crap, so i can only look forward to uni, then cant I

 

[Chand]

Hmm...this is where this thread went.

Out of my close group of friends, I only still have main contact with one (Maybe meet her about 4 times a semester ). Due to doing different degrees, diff unis and schedules, I have lost contact with people. Its easier for me to make new close friends in my course, in my society 'cause I see them all the time. So I guess I have moved on...but in a sense I never had a really good (perhaps best) friend until I reached uni and met the person that I've been good friends with now. Sure, I always had a sort of best friend at high school, but I think we were so different from each other and everyone else, we became friends purely based on that.

So yah I guess due to the wider range/variety of people at uni, I fitted in better because I related better while high school didn't have the broader range of people, and I fitted in to what I was most comfortable with there.

 

[Ranger Stacie]

there was a fair amount of bitchiness in my group of friends at school and consequently I only really stay in touch with a few close friends, although we do occasionally all go out together. I didnt really make any friends at the start of uni, cos its amazing the amount of mature aged (40 year old with kids) students there are doing my course, but now I have met some really nice people. Since they are at newy and I am on the central coast we dont see eachother all the time but we still do go out a fair bit

 

[assman]

i hate private shool people:|


hehe just kidding!

I HATE THEM!! NO REALLY!

 

[uwsstudent]

friends are here with u for true friendship

i am with my school friends more, cause in uni i don't enjoy it as much as in high school, i love my school friends, they are my good mates, some are the ones that i can share my inner thoughts with, some are the ones that i see from time to time, friends are ones that i miss the most and get happy the most when i am with them

 

[Inscrutable]

most school friends suck, once you finish high school you realise who ur real friends are and who were just with you to waste time, well for me anyways cause i went to a shitty school and was new to this country, so i didnt have time to make great friends, cant wait to meet new peoples at uni though

 

[|Axis_]

It's so true, what the sunscreen song says: the older you get, the more you'll need the people you knew when you were young.

Even though I love love LOVE maths and messing around with logic, my best friends have always been people who don't care much for the academic stuff. They had the same active interests as me, they were adventurous and enthusiastic and that was so refreshing!

In uni there are lots of acedemic people around which isn't a problem - but it's not the same. I sometimes get that thing where people try to talk smartly or something, but I just don't care. Hey, I like how you're being intellectual and all, but won't u go splash around in the pool with me? .. sigh.. u know what I mean.

 

[Vangineer]

school frnz live local, easier to hang out with, plus i knew em since yr 5, so thats that,

Uni frnz have more in common in that they do the same course as u. They live scattered places. Dont really know em too well.

 

[tyra]

well, i haven't met any uni friends, but all my school friends have totally ditched me....after promising the usual friendship forever crap, so i can only look forward to uni, then cant I

remember that old vitamin c song?

'as our lives change, come whatever, we will still be friends forever' yeeeaaah riiight.

 

[noneother]

It's so true, what the sunscreen song says: the older you get, the more you'll need the people you knew when you were young.

Even though I love love LOVE maths and messing around with logic, my best friends have always been people who don't care much for the academic stuff. They had the same active interests as me, they were adventurous and enthusiastic and that was so refreshing!

In uni there are lots of acedemic people around which isn't a problem - but it's not the same. I sometimes get that thing where people try to talk smartly or something, but I just don't care. Hey, I like how you're being intellectual and all, but won't u go splash around in the pool with me? .. sigh.. u know what I mean.

I concur! They're very serious, most are just grossly imitating maturity. I find myself sitting through convos where they try to speak with an air of grace of whateva the hell you wanna call it but its inefficient. Something that can be explained in 30 sec they extend to 2 min just to make themselves sound smart...pfftt! idiots!

Also a lot of them take things too seriously and being a little frivolous myself I find it annoying to be hangin' around a bunch of zombies who possess very little sense of humour.

 

[RCMasterAA]

How come the last few replies made by females are one saying how their high school friends were bitchy and snobbed them in the end? Must be something to do with being a girl...

Anyway I still keep in contact with all the people in my high school friends group. We go out to movies, social events, parties and whatnot.
The only times I socialise with uni friends is when there's a uni party or anything to do with drinking

 

[Guernica]

Reading this thread scared me I don't wanna leave high school