Yes, but like you say, you haven't been in many serious relationships. Also, by serious I assume 6 months? A year? It's a bit different when you're in a 2+ year relationships and do become best friends during the relationship, or were before it. Like people have said, it's like you're part of each other's family: it's almost like having a sibling then one day them just not existing anymore if you don't remain friends.12th man said:i personally cant stay friends with an ex. atleast in the relationships ive been in, theres nothing positive to be gained from it; friendship will enver be the same/things omitted/a bit awkard; and id rather not go back there if i didnt have to
only really had two seirous relationships
first one was about a year ago that i got dumped and it hurt like a motherfucker...it was a while ago now but i dont particularly want to hear about her and her new guy and how happy she is; even though ive been wiht others since its just not something i need to/want to hear even though it was inevitable and good that shes happy rather than sad
and the other girl who i was in a relationship with since that breakup; i broke up with her and have absoltuely no desire to speak to her again...ont out of a nasty way or anything; i just dont want to
so yeah for me; friends with exes is a no go zone; it's over once its over. not interested in hearing how much happier they are with someone apart from me and assume it would be vice versa, just no point voluntarily going throuhg that shit once youve already been throuhg a breakup which is bad enoguoh....move on entirely's my motto
Yes because you should stay with someone just because you like their family.melonkitten said:should have thought of that before you broke up, i guess.
Skeeta said:I'm sure theres another thread like this hanging around here but i dont care.
I honestly HATE posting here with a passion, but I do need a bit of validation, and i know what all of my friends are going to say.
So for the past month or so i've been going through a break/breakup with my boyfriend i'd been with for over 5 years. I was obviously upset and scared and all that crap, but I dealt with it in my own way. So last night, we finially agreed that it wasnt going to work. Pretty much he didnt love me anymore but we still have a fantastic friendship. First and foremost he was my best friend before my boyfriend, and most of what we were so upset about when we were going through the breakup is not that we wouldnt grow old together and have babies, but that we would have lost our best friend.
We know eachother inside and out, we have always been the person we have turned to - and know that we would never be ablet o break the no-contact rule. I mean, towards the end it was only the friendship keeping us together. There wasnt the romance, there wasnt the "relationship-type" stuff.
So do y'all think this could work? I mean it IS a fucked up situation.. i do know that, but we've already talked about the new b/f g/f shit.. all of the 'problems' that can arise. I am really good friends iwth all of his family, all of his friends, and the same with me.
In all honesty we hope if we keep the friendship, one day the other stuff might just pop back and all will be well.. I just need some advice.
yeah...because no guys and girls can ever be friends, right?sdfjsdkl55 said:The only guys who stay really good friends with the girl after they break up are either gay or they've known each other since they were 4-5 years old. Other than that, wtf would you bother wasting your time being friends with your ex girlfriend??? Move on, it's over.
Think you may have miss-read that one there mate. What I meant was that after a break-up the couple involved will never be 'really good friends'. There'll always be a sour taste from the break-up and that can't be denied.stazi said:yeah...because no guys and girls can ever be friends, right?
Why not?sdfjsdkl55 said:Definately agree with you on that one, whereby if you're best friends beforehand, you're still gonna be at least friends afterwards. What I'm talking about is when you break up with a girl and she explains that she still wants to be friends. Are you really gonna hang around to pursue that friendship????