Stepford Wives (1 Viewer)

[glycerine]

I care lots if ANYONE tries to boss me around, much less my boyfriend.

 

[MouNtY]

i agree with all you people...gotta have a fighter.......not someone who'll battle me on every single detail but someone is willing to stand up for what they beleive in, i mean yeah it'd be great to have a girl that would wait on you hand and foot, but the fun would wear out after the first couple of hours. So yeah i guess i need a mixture of both as well, someone who is assertive but submissive.

 

[zerzillia]

a mixture.
a fine blend of assertiveness and submissiveness.
passive feminity gets you to places, lol.
i am a really dynamic person. it's kind of hard to explain. i think it's the same with everyone, you treat people depending on how you are feeling/ how they are feeling, how you get along with them and how much you like them (and vice versa, and so on so forth). eg. you don't treat a regular classmate the same way you treat a close friend.
so, getting back to relationships, i would say that both is required. you can't have it your way all the time and with my personality i don't think i can be bossy 100% of the time (even if you're a family member.....i'm too nice).
i am slowly forming my own opinion (which is good, you need it in your essays, kiddies!). i don't think it's egotistical or anything but i am willing to argue with anyone over what i think on certain topics. for example, i am fed up with prejudice and bias and i hate it when people are too closed minded, like people who are against gay people or a certain colour of people etc.

for a guy, i would hope that he's not so opinionated that he will not allow me to have my own opinions. also, i think it's essential that he can learn his lessons and would see it that change is good and therefore being "submissive" and listening to criticism is necessary.

hmm, this post is really long and i am getting confused. @_@ ahh~~~

anyhoo. a good topic!

 

[ogmzergrush]

...confidence/power in a male is a big turn on.

Confident men turn you on? Ok then.

Chicks dont mind being bossed around as long as you treat them good and you protect them and shit.

I'm not sure how you're qualified to tell us what females like, although maybe this and the earlier quote are indicative of some sort of gender issue? Either that or you're an expert on all females?

Personally I'd say that bossing people around isn't treating them 'good' (or rather, well). I also think perhaps there's a time and place for being the big alpha male protector.

For my part I'm not an overly controlling person, although I don't really think that I'd say it's to the point where I let anyone walk all over me, gf or otherwise.

Me not being controlling, or bossing my gf around however, doesn't really indicate that I'm spineless, or as you say 'wimpy in all situations'. Personally I certainly wouldn't hesitate to 'protect' her, should the situation arise, and should it be required. Rather than being a question of being an all round alpha male vs. being 'wimpy', I think it's more an issue of picking your fights, or even understanding your partner's rights.

Not being a throw back to the 1950s or earlier, I have no problem with my gf exercising her personal will, nor do I see her as a completely defenceless being who requires my 'protection'. Sure, situations might arise where this is the case, but I find it marginally chauvinistic to assume prior to such situations that my 'protection' is needed. The entire 'male as protector' thing seems terribly out of date to me, almost prehistoric?

I guess, in short, what I'm trying to say is that I really don't see the parallel you've drawn between bossing someone around and 'protecting' them.

 

[jhakka]

Not being a throw back to the 1950s or earlier, I have no problem with my gf exercising her personal will, nor do I see her as a completely defenceless being who requires my 'protection'. Sure, situations might arise where this is the case, but I find it marginally chauvinistic to assume prior to such situations that my 'protection' is needed. The entire 'male as protector' thing seems terribly out of date to me, almost prehistoric?

Damn. I was going to say something along the lines of "What year are you living in?" but you beat me to it with that.

 

[Wilmo]

No no... you dont come across as a bitch... i thought i didnt post that message, but i guess i was wrong.

 

[Navjeet]

i want a guy like you

amen sister!

I want a guy who will provide stimulation for debates when they arise and not someone who will just back down and agree with me, or conversley, one who will force their view upon me. I think it's important to have compromise and healthy arguments. Having said that, if we had the means, I'd be happy to primarily stay at home and be a housewife when I get married and 'serve' my husband so to speak, but I'd definitely have a part time or volunteer job to keep me sane. It's kind of quaint....the whole men being provider, women being there to satisfy the men ideal, but only to a certain extent. Like I love cooking, and I also happen to like cleaning (except my room...anything else but my room)....so if that makes me 'submissive'...well...*shrugs*....what can i do?

 

[my sharona]

I think respect is more important in relationships. Regardless of whether the guy or the girl wants to be submissive or assertive, the other person should respect that decision. If they can accept each other, then it doesn't matter what other people think.

And tattoodguy, i completely disagree with your 'nice guys get nothing' statement. I'm sure that all the chicks that will leave you because you're 'such a bad boy' will defect to nice guys and have a great life... and you will grow old and lonely, unless you become one

 

[ameh]

I'm going to watch this movie, looks good

 

[Will_Sparky]

you need someone who'll argue back. Otherwise you'd just hire a maid.

 

[tattoodguy]

Im not saying im not nice.

Like i am nice, actually im the nicest guy in sydney. But at the same time i just think girls should be submissive and know how to treat a man and im not going to walk on egg shellls just to appease you.

Basically i just treat chicks in accordance with how they act, which is think is fair enough.

Guys who let their gfs walk on them are loosers.

 

[Navjeet]

actually im the nicest guy in sydney.

and your authority to make this claim would be....??

 

[my sharona]

Im not saying im not nice.

Like i am nice, actually im the nicest guy in sydney. But at the same time i just think girls should be submissive and know how to treat a man and im not going to walk on egg shellls just to appease you.

Basically i just treat chicks in accordance with how they act, which is think is fair enough.

Guys who let their gfs walk on them are loosers.

I don't think you're nice at all... and i doubt that i'm the only one.
And i don't agree with your idea of a 'relationship'.
From your other posts, i gather that you treat pretty much all chicks like objects, and (heaven forbid) if you ever have a relationship with a girl, it will be based around her doing what you say, hence, not "walking on you."
I'm sure there are plenty of nicer guys around, and we will see who is the loser.

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[meshy]

Umm, not to be a bitch, but you might want to look into the causes of pedophilia and rape before you make statements like that. Like, what you said is true in *some* cases... but it's a huge generalisation to say no sex = pedophilia.

Off-topic, but yeh I've read that sex has very little to do with pedophilia and rape - that it's mainly a power issue, and it's an exasperated expression of the little power they have in the "real world".

Like most girls want a man to take charge, confidence/power in a male is a big turn on. Thats why bad boys and ruff dudes get alot of chicks and nice guys they get nothing.

I think there's a grain of truth in that.

I believe in equality in a relationship, but I still think most girls like the guy to be stronger, taller, able to protect them, argue with them sometimes, take them out to dinner and drive them home. I think it's a turn-off for most females to have a submissive boyfriend, instead of an outgoing, confident guy. Apart from the arguing sometimes, I don't think a guy would expect hardly any of the above from a girl - they're light gender roles, but if they make both ppl in the relationship happy - why not?

I want a guy who will provide stimulation for debates when they arise and not someone who will just back down and agree with me, or conversley, one who will force their view upon me. I think it's important to have compromise and healthy arguments. Having said that, if we had the means, I'd be happy to primarily stay at home and be a housewife when I get married and 'serve' my husband so to speak, but I'd definitely have a part time or volunteer job to keep me sane. It's kind of quaint....the whole men being provider, women being there to satisfy the men ideal, but only to a certain extent. Like I love cooking, and I also happen to like cleaning (except my room...anything else but my room)....so if that makes me 'submissive'...well...*shrugs*....what can i do?

I'm guessing from your nick that you're Indian, you sound like you have a good mix of western and eastern values - i don't think what you said makes you submissive

 

[Davriel]

I'd love a lover with a mind of her own. Besides, if someone did everything I wanted them to it would mean their mind works in the exact same way mine does, and in my case that would be terrifying. Can anyone say they would love to face someone who was their mirror image mentally? (Shudder)