mack
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When he turns 18 i expect that figure to reach 50+, seriously. Yes it is disturbing that he tells me, i wish he would stop it.
lol i've made a promise to myself to never marry a vietnamese guy, because i know that that's how i'll end up being - the way my parents are now. and i dunno, the culture thing doesn't work for me.RCMasterAA said:I've made a promise to myself never to grow up to be like my parents in their views on life.
That promise also includes never ending up like my parents who don't show any affection to each other.
AsyLum said:"One of these days i hope you find a penis instead of a pussy"
yes. they would. some asian parents are strict enough to cause heartbreaks, change neighbourhoods, change schools or ground them [theres more]. some parents threaten, some lecture incessantly about "focussing on school" not "socialising", "not having friends", that sorta convo and most do a bit of both n more [cant think of the other ways at the moment] and yeah i agree with ya, they say they do want the "best" for us so we can be "happy" but a lotta strict asian parents also contradict themselves. pahh._muse_ said:i have a q.. im not asian so i dont really understand what asian parents are like but... since when have parents had control over our relationships? if we're happy in a relationship are they seriously gonna be evil enough to tear us away from that? thatd jus make us depressed, and arent they always saying they will do anything to make us happy?
sorry in a sit. where this is occuring atm.
its got to do with a lot - expectations as well, expectations of giving the family name a good rep n other stuff in the similar ball park. but yeah, DEFINITELY. some are. some aren't. meh. depends on the person, really.Raiks said:Yeah, I've never entered the realm of asian strict parents... is it a cultural thing or just more a individual parental thing?
Are they really that dominating that they would try and dissolve a healthy relationship just because of their beliefs and control... I can't really comprehend it because I've come from quite a liberal family...
Yay, another fellow first-generation ABCbelly_moo said:being a 'first-generation' australian born asian can really suck especially when you can't speak the same language as your parents - communication barriers etc. and its even harder to see their POV n vice versa... i have to use a friggen vietnamese-english dictionary the size of the White Pages A-L =\
they don't see being with a person as causing happiness, they see it as a distraction, as a downfall for your future._muse_ said:i have a q.. im not asian so i dont really understand what asian parents are like but... since when have parents had control over our relationships? if we're happy in a relationship are they seriously gonna be evil enough to tear us away from that? thatd jus make us depressed, and arent they always saying they will do anything to make us happy?
sorry in a sit. where this is occuring atm.
In that case maybe its time to bring him in line yourself, before he leaves a trail of babies before 18mack said:Well in that case, regarding my brother, my parents have failed miserably.
OMGG!! *hi5's* aha 'cept my parents are vietnamese though. which i think is sometimes really crap cause i don't really have m[any] vietnamese friends to teach me fobby viet -_- most of em are canto.RCMasterAA said:Yay, another fellow first-generation ABC. I agree with the language barrier thing. I wish I could argue with my parents in english cause I'm so sure I'd 'kick their ass' with how contradictory their views are. But no, I'm stuck with some chinese/english mix which doesn't work well for trying to get my own feelings and views across.
i must admit.. i wasnt born here.. but ive live 80% of my life here..belly_moo said:OMGG!! *hi5's* aha 'cept my parents are vietnamese though. which i think is sometimes really crap cause i don't really have m[any] vietnamese friends to teach me fobby viet -_- most of em are canto.
but yeah i have the exacttt same problem . i only really talk to my mum in vietnamese though. but whenever something comes up i can't and dunno how to say what i wanna say n feel. its frustrating though. very, very frustrating.. raaaaaa
iambored said:^^ is so wrong, why does she stay?