SlamminSammy said:
i have a few ideas. but every girl is different.
Girls want a guy who is in controll of himself, Not a WUSSY haha, not needy, clingy or desperate, etc, a guy who doesnt try and BUY a girls attraction IT DONT WORK LIKE THAT, a guy who is fun to be around ( a guy who can always make simple things like walking to the shops fun) a guy who understands flirting(amazingly most guys have no idea what this is - just ask 10 in one day and youll see what i mean) a guy who appreciates their girl, a guy who GETS IT in general, a guy who will protect them, a guy who has his own life, is indifferent (lol listening to ppls convos at starbucks you can tell someones on a first date - they interview each other - it happens all the time. ITS HILARIOUS how most guys just have preprogramed boringness) a guy who is interested in the girl... etc THE LIST IS HUGE.. Oh guys think attraction works for girls as it does for guys... This isnt nescessarily true... Its more important to girls to have a good personality that good looks. what girls wants a good looking boring shmuck? i dont know many? girls from my perspective can be very picky (especially the ones that are approached hundreds of times a week) but everygirl is different so what they want changes from girls to girl (they dont exactly know what they want... but they should have an idea of what they dont want - from past experiences) im not saying anymore!
Wait - girls want a guy who isnt AFFRAID of speaking to them as humans... strange this... i talk to my friends about this... and heaps of them speak to girls differently that they would their "mates." Even im annoyed at that.
finally! a guy who knows what he's on about!
yes, every girl's different..but when you look at the responses most girls will give you, they're generally pretty similar. yes, you have the girls who just want the guy for his wallet, but i think the majority of girls want similar things - and looks and money are usually pretty low on the list of preferences/wants.
and as for the guys who reckon that girls dont know what they want; well yes, we mightn't know
exactly what we want, but we usually have a fair idea (even if we cant express it in a way that you'll understand completely). and if we dont know what we want, we'll know what we
dont want..even if it takes a couple of goes to work it out.
generally, people who're happy in their relationship know what they want - what their partner has to offer them (be it the personality, the way they act towards them, the looks, the sex, or the wallet). and those who arent happy in their relationship know what they dont want, and maybe moreso than those who are happy in theirs, what they do want.
girls can be picky in what they want.....but dont think it's JUST us - guys can be picky too!