its kinda of like having friends. theres people who you may not be friends with anymore, but looking back on it you still enjoyed being their friend.
i agree with the incel/femcel thing you said. im not sure if ill ever find love but ive realized that being sad wont fix it, and that the only thing i can do is enjoy my life how it is. i also used to think i would never make friends, so i put more time into enjoying myself, but as i became happier it attracted more people so now i have friends. im assuming thatll probably happen with the finding love thing but im just doing what i like for me.