is this betrayal? (1 Viewer)

[repz]

ahhaha seriously its not like he touched a girl or anything at least he fessed up and wasn't another secret. well its a good thing he is actually opening up about his dirty secrets
its basically like watching porn
except its not even really fucking its just a lady getting naked.
i would say you shouldnt worry about it let it go.
other wise u may cause more trouble for urself and the relationship
if u love him and still want to be with him let it go
other wise ur just finding an excuse to break up.

it's nothing like going to a brothel so atleast its a bonus there

 

[iamsickofyear12]

I don't see why it's a problem.

 

[Minai]

For those that don't see it as a problem, on the flip side (if you're a guy)... what if your gf secretly works as a stripper...would you be pissed off when you found out?

 

[AsyLum]

It's looking at live porn.

 

[thejosiekiller]

For those that don't see it as a problem, on the flip side (if you're a guy)... what if your gf secretly works as a stripper...would you be pissed off when you found out?

its not quite the same at all

shes being paid to service loads of guys in a degrading manner while, the guys pays one woman to strip to meet his own "needs"

im not saying its right, but its not the perfect flip side either

 

[AsyLum]

For those that don't see it as a problem, on the flip side (if you're a guy)... what if your gf secretly works as a stripper...would you be pissed off when you found out?

But the problem with that is that a stripper is public, whilst jacking off in a booth is little more than a personal masturbation session. It's like jacking off to live webcam girls or porn mags. Call that cheating, and you crush the male's rights!!

 

[ogmzergrush]

For those that don't see it as a problem, on the flip side (if you're a guy)... what if your gf secretly works as a stripper...would you be pissed off when you found out?

Nice job chief, totally similar, because the dude jacking off in a booth with nobody watching is exactly like getting your shit off for an audience. I agree that it's wrong, but what the fuck are you smoking?

For those of you who don't understand, think of it like this. What would you do if you found out your girlfriend was Osama Bin Laden?

 

[thejosiekiller]

For those of you who don't understand, think of it like this. What would you do if you found out your girlfriend was Osama Bin Laden?

id sleep with him/her

 

[Jase]

You can and should forgive him. It'll be hard, but it'll be worth it.

And tell him he's a sick freak too.. or was one at least ...

 

[D_A]

You can and should forgive him. It'll be hard, but it'll be worth it.

And tell him he's a sick freak too.. or was one at least ...

Sick freak?


I don't see much difference between porn and that, cept he paid for this.

It's good that he told you at least, I mean he didn't hafta...but the fact that he did- its either he's really a great guy or someone who knows how to mess with your head.

 

[xeuyrawp]

so my bf of three years told me last nite he had a 'secret'...that he'd done something stupid and wanted to 'fess up.

he said he had used a 'peep show' at a strippers club (where u go into a small room, watch a girl dance / strip for you - she cant see you but you can see her - and have a toss)

this was two years ago. hes really big on trust, honesty etc now he's just told me this.

i am really hurt and feel betrayed, especially since he already knew i hated strip clubs to start with. i think its right up there with cheating (obvioulsy not the same) but still HUGELY offensive.

girls, how would u feel in this position?
guys, do u think its 'perfectly acceptable' thing to have done?

im not sure im overreacting or what.

Obviously you're ugly. What do you expect? To keep your boyfriend all for yourself, when you can't get him hard?

 

[nwatts]

PwarYuex: That's pretty insulting. I'm not giving you a lecture, but you might want to be sensitive of a young girl's feelings in the hurtful position she's in.

 

[AsyLum]

You're new here so I'll give you this advice,

Most posts outside of the subject forums are privy to bouts of random stuff.

 

[Not-That-Bright]

Unless you're willing to get him off every night.... he probably thinks about other girls i'm sorry love

I still wouldn't go to a 'peep show' if i was feeling a little lonely while my girlfriend was gone.

 

[xeuyrawp]

PwarYuex: That's pretty insulting. I'm not giving you a lecture, but you might want to be sensitive of a young girl's feelings in the hurtful position she's in.

No, please, give me a lecture.

What serious response could anyone give? Obviously her boyfriend's a dropkick.

 

[jumb]

this was two years ago.

hahahaha, get over it, you bitch.

 

[santaslayer]

Thing I don't uynderstand is that why the hell he didn't go for the full service? I mean, he's going to pay for it anyway...so why not all the way?

Anyway, I suspect the reason why your boyfriend is telling you two years later is because someone is using this as a means of blackmailing him. He can't stop the blackmailer so he decides to tell you about it. That's very smart, since girls would prefer it if they heard it from their girlfriend instead of some random. LoLz

 

[samuelblayden]

did he say he was really sorry

 

[xeuyrawp]

Thing I don't uynderstand is that why the hell he didn't go for the full service? I mean, he's going to pay for it anyway...so why not all the way?

Price of hooker > stipper.

 

[TheHarlequinMan]

so my bf of three years told me last nite he had a 'secret'...that he'd done something stupid and wanted to 'fess up.

he said he had used a 'peep show' at a strippers club (where u go into a small room, watch a girl dance / strip for you - she cant see you but you can see her - and have a toss)

this was two years ago. hes really big on trust, honesty etc now he's just told me this.

i am really hurt and feel betrayed, especially since he already knew i hated strip clubs to start with. i think its right up there with cheating (obvioulsy not the same) but still HUGELY offensive.

girls, how would u feel in this position?
guys, do u think its 'perfectly acceptable' thing to have done?

im not sure im overreacting or what.

i know its slightly insensitive of me to think this situation as funny but one cant help it...

it is pretty dodgy thing to do...it all depends on how you look at it...i mean, at least he told you. he probably felt so guilty knowing he had done it cos he knew u hated strip joints...i say he's a brave man. he's willing to be honest and open in a relationship...

you dont find that in many guys. i share a big trust with my girl and i like it. others wouldnt feel the same...


its all about ur attitude...