Ladies: do you care if your man goes to a strip club? (2 Viewers)

[flipsyde]

if its one off, then i wouldnt really care.. if it was a regular thing id be like hey whats going on?? lol
ill give him his own private strip show!

I hear that... lol


Same here a regular thing would make me question the relationship .. Id give him his own show to... but every now and then ... sure why not

 

[flipsyde]

Although some people may differ in opinion on this matter; believing it is wrong and it's teaching ur boyfriends to disrespect women, then so be it. Your entitled to ur own opinion, but don't start carrying on and calling us stupid and nieve and other derogatory names.

Agreed

Anyway, in lighter news, my friends are planning to hire a male stripper for my next b'day! yay!

Am I invited? lol jokes

seriously have fun how old u turning?

 

[SmokedSalmon]

Am I invited? lol jokes
seriously have fun how old u turning?

haha sure come along,
I'm turning 21! But my birthday isn't til late in the year

 

[minushuman]

your getting used to the idea????? only if there is no touching????? what the FUCK is wrong with you people??!!!!

I know now there is the latest craze of trying to look cool and watch porn with ur bf and go to strip clubs together or even letting him do it himself.

But what the fuck ever happned to decency and respect.

And please please please you CANNOT argue that it is respectful for him to watch porn and go to strip clubs. My god, you girls are fucking stupid as. Your the bunch of girls that put other girls through pain.

You are telling him its acceptable to disrespect you and other female bodies.
You are teaching him to gaze at other females but yet you want him to be faithful and trustworthy? YOUR TEACHING HIM THE OPPOSITE

i am so shocked, im speechless

By accepting and promoting bf's to go to strip clubs and watching porn teaches both how males should think of females and sex and it sets the standards for women.

Btw, your male and of course you'll defend your presumed 'rights' of sexual freedom. Sexual freedom that us females dont have.

And because these girls letting their bfs think like this, it represses us. For us to be great sex partners, to TRUELY fulfil the wildest dreams of our bf's we must look to porn to see how its done, porn sets our standard.

Anything less and we are not performing.

Any girl who has done something sexually that she truely didnt want to do, whether she was pressured or felt she 'had' to will agree with me. It hurts and its painful.

So to let ur bf go to strip clubs and to then come home back to you, just dont wonder why guys perve, why they talk dirty, why they watch porn.

Its a supported culture that is designed to repress true female sexuality.

Any academic will agree with me, so please dont try to submit your opinion as though it is a well-supported, intellectual arguement.

It has no merit

Aww that's so cute. I'm quite impressed that as a female you managed to both use a computer and were able to post on an internet based forum. I want to ruffle your hair and give you a cookie.

No no, you deserve it, really you do.

A cookie and some sort of medal, a shiney gold statue of a man giving birth perhaps, or a gift certificate for an employment opportunity in a typically male dominated industry.

You'd love that, wouldn't you? Oh yes you would, yes you would.

I love how even you accept your self-proclaimed intellectuallism as truth, when clearly you're not an intellectual at all. Just same brain-washed moron who's read to much feminist literature written by ugly hairy dykes who hate men because men see them as the ugly hairy dykes which they are.

Bet you're one of those "rent-a-crowd" type protestors too, just going along with a massive horde of other anti-establishment and anti-conformity poser fucktards.

Men do not learn to hate women by watching porn or going to stripclubs, that has very little bearing on anything. Pornography is both a learning experience (about your own body, and the body of the opposite sex) as well as a terrific visual stimulus for arousal. Stripclubs hardly allow for the mistreatment of women, touching rules are strictly kept in check by large bouncers and males go to admire the female form. If anything it is us who are being exploited by the female population who know exactly how to use their looks and sex appeal to garnish our hard earned wages.

I watch porn, and intend to spend quite a few nights at strip-clubs with my mates but I have nothing but the highest respect for my girlfriend. I adore her more then words could portray and would never consider the prospect of being disloyal to her. I also don't get upset when she watches porn or if she were to be aroused by another mans body. It's just porn; and it does not have any negative bearing on our relationship.

Oh and I wholeheartedly believe that females would be better lovers (and better people in general) if they watched porn aswell, or atleast read erotic literature. To truly understand the scope and breadth of sexual practice you need to see it in all it's grand variety. Self discovery and improvisation is one thing, but knowing advanced techniques and understanding the intricacies of certian positions can not come intuitively.

If it weren't for porn I wouldn't be able to (or even have the drive to) please my girlfriend as much as I do when we're in bed.

In summary, porn makes people better lovers, strip clubs do not have detrimental effects on our appreciation of the female body and our respect for them, seeing other people naked does not constitute as cheating, and you're a dumb bitch who will never feel a mans love if you continue trying to speak out against what you view as the male condition. I don't understand how a guy could be with someone who valued herself so highly above him and his pleasure, don't kid yourself into thinking that you're after equality because you're not.

Oh and by the way, I don't hate you and think you're as worthless as a discarded tampon because I like porn, I hate you because you're a fucking moron

 

[jennylim]

your getting used to the idea?????

only if there is no touching?????

what the FUCK is wrong with you people??!!!!

I know now there is the latest craze of trying to look cool and watch porn with ur bf and go to strip clubs together or even letting him do it himself.

But what the fuck ever happned to decency and respect.

And please please please you CANNOT argue that it is respectful for him to watch porn and go to strip clubs.

My god, you girls are fucking stupid as.

Your the bunch of girls that put other girls through pain.

You are telling him its acceptable to disrespect you and other female bodies.
You are teaching him to gaze at other females but yet you want him to be faithful and trustworthy? YOUR TEACHING HIM THE OPPOSITE

i am so shocked, im speechless

YAY!!! someone said it. i would feel hurt if my bf wanted to go...like i wasn't enough. especially cos i would hope to be going out with a guy with similar values to myself...his wanting to indulge in porn and go to strip clubs would show that his values differed from mine. but that might just be me. (and obviously dynamic22)

 

[Ranger Stacie]

actually if my boyfriend went to a strip club every night, and was a sad sleaze it would be a problem.

 

[EATAPIE]

and your beliefs derive from the non-intellectual pool of conformitism.

By accepting and promoting bf's to go to strip clubs and watching porn teaches both how males should think of females and sex and it sets the standards for women.

Btw, your male and of course you'll defend your presumed 'rights' of sexual freedom. Sexual freedom that us females dont have.

And because these girls letting their bfs think like this, it represses us. For us to be great sex partners, to TRUELY fulfil the wildest dreams of our bf's we must look to porn to see how its done, porn sets our standard.

Anything less and we are not performing.

Any girl who has done something sexually that she truely didnt want to do, whether she was pressured or felt she 'had' to will agree with me. It hurts and its painful.

So to let ur bf go to strip clubs and to then come home back to you, just dont wonder why guys perve, why they talk dirty, why they watch porn.

Its a supported culture that is designed to repress true female sexuality.

Any academic will agree with me, so please dont try to submit your opinion as though it is a well-supported, intellectual arguement.

It has no merit

Absolutely agree. You are so right. It's ashame that today's society has become so degradatory towards women. I understand fully, and I'm male. I just can't be bothered arguing with ppl on BoS about these issues though, cos there's no point. They'll never understand! Just make sure you get the right man.

 

[minushuman]

Absolutely agree. You are so right. It's ashame that today's society has become so degradatory towards women. I understand fully, and I'm male. I just can't be bothered arguing with ppl on BoS about these issues though, cos there's no point. They'll never understand! Just make sure you get the right man.

You are so fucking whipped.

 

[AsyLum]

Man, id hate to be stuck with a chic that was like that. Imagine the calls, imagine the nagging, imagine the two black eyes id give her and the AVO that'd be taken out on me

 

[robbie1]

minushman (is that how u spell it) - well said mate

dynamic - you have some serious issues

men are the ones who are exploited at strip clubs, not women

i sat down with my 2 mates and was enjoying the show

to my suprise one hot stripper came over and sat down with us

my mates told her its my 18th and she came over and gave me a kiss (on the lips)

i was like mmmm......then she starts sweet talking me before asking (more like telling me) to get a private show with her

$90 for 15 mins

i go ill think about it

another 4-5 strippers did the same thing

all touching me and sweet talking

finally i gave in and picked a hot blonde for a shower show followed by a private show (my buddies paid, of course)

i am now a change man

point is i was exploited, not the very hot semi naked women...with their perfect titties and nice round asses....mmmm im going again cyas later

 

[jennylim]

minushman (is that how u spell it) - well said mate

dynamic - you have some serious issues

men are the ones who are exploited at strip clubs, not women

i sat down with my 2 mates and was enjoying the show

to my suprise one hot stripper came over and sat down with us

my mates told her its my 18th and she came over and gave me a kiss (on the lips)

i was like mmmm......then she starts sweet talking me before asking (more like telling me) to get a private show with her

$90 for 15 mins

i go ill think about it

another 4-5 strippers did the same thing

all touching me and sweet talking

finally i gave in and picked a hot blonde for a shower show followed by a private show (my buddies paid, of course)

i am now a change man

point is i was exploited, not the very hot semi naked women...with their perfect titties and nice round asses....mmmm im going again cyas later

ok, so you were financially exploited (your point)...but really weren't (because your mates paid)...and as such, that makes frequenting strip shows something your (hypothetical) girlfriend should completely understand and tacitly support? can someone clear this up for me?

dynamic's issues are just that she happens to have, well, values. or at least she prefers guys who try not to see women in a completely sexualised light and instead see them for their humanity, intelligence, kindness AS WELL AS their attractiveness.

 

[davin]

if girls can say its unfair that porn somehow creates a higher standard for how they are expected to do in the bedroom, then can i say its unfair that all these dramatic movies and junk set the bar way too high for guys when it comes to romance?


i'd also think that, unless you've nothign to offer a guy other than a pretty form, you'd not be in actual danger. if personality plays a role in the relationship...strippers can't cheapen that

 

[minushuman]

And that brings me to another point which that dumb soon to be aborted bitch brought up; something about porn raising male expectations of how women should act in the bedroom. Have you ever watched porn fucktard? Have you seen the penis' on those guys? Sat through hours of constant pounding without a single ejaculation?

If, as you wrongly believe, peoples expectations were shaped by porn then women would believe that all men should have at least ten inches of penis in their pants and have the ability to engage in hard, fast, intercourse for hours on end without cumming or getting sore arms.

Porn has no bearing on reality. Please die.

 

[davin]

heck, i think porn probably would compare themselves negativly far more than the girl they're with

 

[Casmira]

You are so fucking whipped.

tell me about it there's a difference between expressing your beliefs, and bending over backwords for a girl

 

[kazan]

dynamic, you need to back up, as if it is that bad of a problem, if your man goes to a strip club, and you have a problem with it, leave him, dont spread bull-dyke propaganda on the internet, no-one cares.

 

[dynamic22]

*Sigh*

Thats why my bf is 28 and thats why i dont go out with young guys.

*Sigh* again

 

[withoutaface]

*Sigh*

Thats why my bf is 28 and thats why i dont go out with young guys.

*Sigh* again

You never answered my question about why swallowing cum was any different to swallowing vaginal fluids (inevitable when going down on a chick) in the "do girls" thread.

 

[dynamic22]

Because swallowing male cum and giving blow jobs has a different cultural connetation as appose to doing it to a female.

Now im going to feel like im repeating myself, but pornography is defined as the domination of one party over another.

In this case, males over females. When a blow job is given in this sexed up world, it is a mark of male domination and only contributes to the attempt of by males to define what consititutes female sexuality.

Im not saying that male and female cum tastes differently or whatever.

Im simply talking about the cultural/social significance of these sexual acts

 

[sparkl3z]

bout wat that robbie1 guy said above, yeah he's young, needs girls to entertain him whatever, (personally i wouldnt date such a guy), but most of them are like that, so it can be classified normal, but he said a girl kissed him, see if he had a gf, or if he does, then that would be a big big no no. you go off kissing random girls while u have a gf, then that's nothin but wasting the gf and her emotions.