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i have a problem. and that is talking to girls , i like talking to them , but i can never seem to get them interested, as i just lose their attention etcetc. i need some advice
 

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Ask questions about them..and then listen and don't interrupt. Girls like talking about themselves. Sorry for generalising here! I can't think of any other advice :)
 

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kekeheaven said:
i have a problem. and that is talking to girls , i like talking to them , but i can never seem to get them interested, as i just lose their attention etcetc. i need some advice
WELCOME TO THE CLUB CHAMP

cept you better be ugly. otherwise you suck.
 

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i dunno. theres no one way that will give you success in talking to every girl. sometimes, conversation just somehow flows really well between people. for no real reason other than personalities just go well together. if you are talking to a girl who likes the same things you do, then you shouldn't have any troubles keeping her interest. You must be talking to the wrong girls.
 
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1.) confidence: if you speak with no confidence
people are less likely to listen to what you say
of course they Hear you
but they don't actually Listen
what you say would just be like a piece of cotton
that flies right across their face
neglected, forgotten.
2.) sometimes, it's better to shut up than to say something lame
some guys feel like in order to please girls
they need to joke and be funny all the time
even when there's absolutely nothing to joke about
or when it is not the right time to joke
they end up committing social suicide
by continuously adding in lame jokes
making the girl feel uncomfortable as she has to "laugh" to show politeness or to reduce awkwardness
3.) maybe you've been picking the same kind of girl to talk to.
I don't mean looks-wise.
4.) don't always start a conversation with stuff that's common between you and her, it gets boring after a while. For example: "oh, hey have you started that assignment yet?" that would make her think u're more interested in her HW than her.
 

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One more thing.
Wait for her to finish saying something BEFORE you ask another question or start talking about something else. (Like what lilkiwifruit said.)
If you cut through the middle of her "talk", it gives an impression that you weren't really listening and don't really give a shit to what she says.
 

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MAKE A TOTAL ASS OUT OF URSELF!!! serious...!!! they will put u on the friends ladder but the theory is wrong!! YOU CAN SO JUMP TO THE OTHER LADDER!
 

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Darkening, if you've 'jumped' you weren't on her friends ladder then, no such thing.
 

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Be more interesting. What do you have to offer. This:

"Hey girly babe, what's up?"

*she leaves*

or

"hi"

"hey"

...

"You do that math"

"yeah"

*she leaves*

If you are one of these two change. Noone wants to talk to you. I suggest my opening line (this has worked)

" What do you tell a women with two black eyes?"

...

"Nothing she has been told twice already"

"BAHHAHAHAHAH"

"I though it was pretty funny, how you been?"

if that doesn't work just show them your six pack and do some karate kicks. (also may work)
 

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Oddy Nocki said:
" What do you tell a women with two black eyes?"

...

"Nothing she has been told twice already"

"BAHHAHAHAHAH"

"I though it was pretty funny, how you been?"

if that doesn't work just show them your six pack and do some karate kicks. (also may work)
:rofl: i dont know how well that will work ~ considering violence against women, australia says NO
 

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Oddy Nocki said:
Be more interesting. What do you have to offer. This:

"Hey girly babe, what's up?"

*she leaves*

or

"hi"

"hey"

...

"You do that math"

"yeah"

*she leaves*

If you are one of these two change. Noone wants to talk to you. I suggest my opening line (this has worked)

" What do you tell a women with two black eyes?"

...

"Nothing she has been told twice already"

"BAHHAHAHAHAH"

"I though it was pretty funny, how you been?"

if that doesn't work just show them your six pack and do some karate kicks. (also may work)
uhhhh i think i would be more disgusted if you said this to me than impressed



music taste can be the best for starting points in conversation, and if you find someone who likes all the same music as you do.. even better!
 

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kekeheaven said:
i have a problem. and that is talking to girls , i like talking to them , but i can never seem to get them interested, as i just lose their attention etcetc. i need some advice
It depends on the type of girl. If your talking about the type I think you are then you gotta get them interested in you somehow. Like talk about somethin u have in common with them or find out their favourite band or something...

So wait, why are you just having trouble talking to them? Do you want to just have a good ol conversation, or get the convo to lead onto other things???
 

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tlodg said:
1.) confidence: if you speak with no confidence
people are less likely to listen to what you say
of course they Hear you
but they don't actually Listen
what you say would just be like a piece of cotton
that flies right across their face
neglected, forgotten.
2.) sometimes, it's better to shut up than to say something lame
some guys feel like in order to please girls
they need to joke and be funny all the time
even when there's absolutely nothing to joke about
or when it is not the right time to joke
they end up committing social suicide
by continuously adding in lame jokes
making the girl feel uncomfortable as she has to "laugh" to show politeness or to reduce awkwardness
3.) maybe you've been picking the same kind of girl to talk to.
I don't mean looks-wise.
4.) don't always start a conversation with stuff that's common between you and her, it gets boring after a while. For example: "oh, hey have you started that assignment yet?" that would make her think u're more interested in her HW than her.

What the fuck is this shit?


Fuck man, if you need to think about it you're fucked from day one. Talk to chicks about the same shit you talk to guys about (less the vivid descriptions of the slang you thrashed last night).
 

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Egronk said:
What the fuck is this shit?


Fuck man, if you need to think about it you're fucked from day one. Talk to chicks about the same shit you talk to guys about (less the vivid descriptions of the slang you thrashed last night).
Sorry, I don't really know what you're talking about. But if you think different from a girl's perspective, I respect that.
 

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kekeheaven said:
i have a problem. and that is talking to girls , i like talking to them , but i can never seem to get them interested, as i just lose their attention etcetc. i need some advice
just talk about anything that comes on ur mind.

that's kind of rude of them to ignore you.

Like when someone bores me, I still pretend to be interested...... so I don't upset them :uhhuh:
 

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UnIqUe_PrInCeSs said:
just talk about anything that comes on ur mind.

that's kind of rude of them to ignore you.

Like when someone bores me, I still pretend to be interested...... so I don't upset them :uhhuh:
wow that's so interesting :bomb:
 

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