neeeeeeeeeeeeed friendship help please (1 Viewer)

[zazzy1234]

I have a friend and she was always there 4 me, then 2 nights ago she tore her ligaments and chiped her ankle. Her parents r always fighting and she does badly at school, she doesn't concentrate on her work, she has never passed an exam she says she doesn't care about her maks she just want her certificate. Her dad is going out with another chick while he is already married.

In legal studies i called her 2 see how shez doing but she told me to tell the teacher about her condition. The teacher told me to tell her that she has missed out on toooo many lessons and she can get kicked out if she continous 2 miss lessons when i told ma friend what the teacher said, she told me to tell off the teacher and i told her no i don't want to get into trouble. Now she isn't answering ma txts nor is she answering ma calls


what do i do heeeeeeeeeeelp

 

[kawaiinlove]

she might hate you for 2 days (or more) but refer her to a psychologist/school counsellor or something..they'll know what to do

 

[Fortify]

Psychologists/School Counselor works well. Otherwise she can call the Kids Help Line.

 

[zazzy1234]

Psychologists/School Counselor works well. Otherwise she can call the Kids Help Line.

the probelm is that she does but what do i do interms of her not talking to me, should i leave it coz she's not worth or wat


im loooooooooooost

 

[kawaiinlove]

the probelm is that she does but what do i do interms of her not talking to me, should i leave it coz she's not worth or wat


im loooooooooooost

just make sure she knows that she can trust you/you're there for her or whatever and then leave her alone.

 

[zazzy1234]

just make sure she knows that she can trust you/you're there for her or whatever and then leave her alone.

yeh ur right, she knows im always there i proved it to her soooooooo many, but if that is how she wants to be the i guess i hve noooo choice but 2 let it go

 

[*TRUE*]

I have a friend and she was always there 4 me, then 2 nights ago she tore her ligaments and chiped her ankle. Her parents r always fighting and she does badly at school, she doesn't concentrate on her work, she has never passed an exam she says she doesn't care about her maks she just want her certificate. Her dad is going out with another chick while he is already married.

In legal studies i called her 2 see how shez doing but she told me to tell the teacher about her condition. The teacher told me to tell her that she has missed out on toooo many lessons and she can get kicked out if she continous 2 miss lessons when i told ma friend what the teacher said, she told me to tell off the teacher and i told her no i don't want to get into trouble. Now she isn't answering ma txts nor is she answering ma calls


what do i do heeeeeeeeeeelp

This friend sounds like she's got some pretty sad things to deal with, it's good of you to care so much.
However, her behaviour towards you is ( in my view) unacceptable.
Not speaking to you ,because you've refused to do something ( you refusal being in accordance with your personal standards) shows her to be manipulative.
In other words, it's all a power play to try to force you to do what she wants.
The teacher may well have been making a sensible choice here, but I think your friend ought to get professional help to deal with her issues , as she obviously is having a hard time holding herself together.

You did the right thing to refuse her. You have to set boundaries in your relationships.

 

[mcflystargirl]

give her space, get her professional help.

 

[samthebear]

give her space, get her professional help.

+1 cuz thats pretty much all you need to do in one line. not like everyone else who has written a whole paragraph when one line can summise it.

 

[zazzy1234]

THANX 4 ur help people, i don't care anymore if she wants to talk to me she can but at the moment i've got ma HSC to worry about