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Re: Guess she shouldn't have dressed like a slut I guess
I think they were suggesting that because rape does happen (despite the best efforts of most people to prevent it), shouldn't precautions be taken by women to protect themselves? Much in the same way that (most) men take precautions against being mugged (alternate routes, as discussed itt).
The issue i raised was whether what you are wearing influences the frequency of rape at all (i would not think so)
I dont think anyone in this thread suggested that you shouldn't be able to go out dressed however you want and drink whatever you want without a worry of being assaulted. Of course you should be able to. This was raised before.This thread is disgusting and reeks of misogyny and hatred for women. Before labelling feminists as "bulldykes" characterising them as some extremist sect, remember that feminism is about equality. Thus, in an age where there are still vast discrepancies between genders, feminism is essential.
As a female, lesbian, and survivor of rape and sexual abuse, you're convictions are extremely hurtful. My rape wasn't 'sex' - it was plainly rape. It was a vicious and cruel crime, and like all crimes, was an act to garner power and hurt someone.
I wasn't raped because I was wearing a low shirt or a short skirt. I also wasn't raped because I decided something different the "next morning", or didn't know how to say 'no'. I was raped because someone wanted to exert aggression and malice upon me.
As males, you possess societal privilege. I can assume that when you go out, you don't have to worry about drinks being spiked or sexual assault. But each time a woman goes out, we are reminded to watch our drinks and be cautious. That's why there is anger towards these messages. Campaigning for equality, we shouldn't have to alter our actions to 'avoid' rape. We should be able to go out freely, without feeling like the vulnerable gender, just as men are able to do. Rape is in no way caused by the victim. There is nothing they can do to encourage or instigate it. If an innocent person is held at bullet point, do we see them as welcoming the event? Or do we interrogate whether they said no? Of course not.
Victim blaming is inaccurate and damaging, particularly where it often occurs in the aftermath of a traumatic and violating crime. All women want is equality, so please don't laud our efforts and undermine our cases of assault, when you possess positions of privilege. I hope you never encounter assault and rape, and a big fuck you to the casual chauvinism and misogyny in your tone. Please grow up and realise the great injustices that women and those of alternate gender identities experience every day.
I think they were suggesting that because rape does happen (despite the best efforts of most people to prevent it), shouldn't precautions be taken by women to protect themselves? Much in the same way that (most) men take precautions against being mugged (alternate routes, as discussed itt).
The issue i raised was whether what you are wearing influences the frequency of rape at all (i would not think so)