Ok, half of you are in debates about whether the RIGHT amount of months / weeks is good enough to actually say you "love" them or whatever. This is not the case...
Basically, if you are seeking a mate for physical pleasure and arousing companionship, go to some local clubs with a friend or two, get drunk, and repeatedly approach attractive girls until you successfully find one interested in becoming your mate.
if you are seeking a mate for emotional pleasure, mentally stimulating and loving companionship, engage yourself in group hobbies and activities that interest you most, and seek out a female that meets or exceeds your passion for that activity, and engage her in relevant and interesting conversation.
in either case, if you are seeking a mate, and not just a friend, then you must "create a spark." to do so, just remember that you are both human, and both have innate ability and desire for physical sensual stimulation. dont be afraid to initiate the physical skin to skin contact. the sooner you do so, the easier it will be to move toward you goal of acquiring a mate.
in the first scenario, not only are you not required to "open up emotionally," you may be better off not doing so, and just concentrating on creating a physically stimulating bond between the two of you. in the second scenario, however, you would be better off "opening up" quite quickly, which will encourage her to do the same, creating a "bonding of the souls."
just keep in mind, that in the second scenario, creating an emotional connection with a like minded individual can turn into a close platonic relationship quite rapidly. to combat this, create the physical spark early on, and make a conscious effort to keep the flame alive with physical skin to skin contact, with an ever increasing sensuality to your physical contact.
with any luck, you should find a compatible mate, type of your choosing, in a short time.
i really hope it works out for you 
